"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MacAvoy

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How is the best way to deal with the second women in terms of allowing them to know their status. I have recently become involved with my ex and mother of my daughter. I am committed to making that work on the long term.

In order for me to be able to maintain that relationship and not get bored, I will require extra-curricular activity. What is the best way to tell the other women her role. IE so she doesn't call at the wrong time and get me into trouble.

As it is now, she only has my cell phone number. She is young, and open minded, and naughty.

Suggestions?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NewMan

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There is only one way to go here - be honest and up front about it.

It's either that, or you get a 2nd cell phone and you lie like a M F.
 

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Probably getting a 2nd cellphone would be the way to go.
 

SELF-MASTERY

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my friend told his weekend ho, that he had a wifey, wasnt lookin for love, or conversation, and not to call him all the time because his true love was at home.

It worked:cool:
 

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Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
my friend told his weekend ho, that he had a wifey, wasnt lookin for love, or conversation, and not to call him all the time because his true love was at home.

It worked:cool:
sounds like a good plan, although could potentially backfire if she turns into a psychotic ***** - like in Fatal Attraction...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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penkitten

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Originally posted by MacAvoy
How is the best way to deal with the second women in terms of allowing them to know their status. I have recently become involved with my ex and mother of my daughter. I am committed to making that work on the long term.

In order for me to be able to maintain that relationship and not get bored, I will require extra-curricular activity. What is the best way to tell the other women her role. IE so she doesn't call at the wrong time and get me into trouble.

As it is now, she only has my cell phone number. She is young, and open minded, and naughty.

Suggestions?
1. if you cheat on her and she finds out you will have hell to pay. get a good attorney for that daughter or you wont get a visitation.
2. the other woman will fall for you, and she will stalk and harrass you , anything to get you because you are with the first woman, and this will start off with calling at the wrong times, in order to get you in trouble.


i say if you dont wanna be in the first relationship for fear of boredom , then dont be in it.
is it really worth all this other stuff ? the drama it creates?
 

iveyleeger

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I say always be honest. In the end you will feel better. If you can't negotiate for a mistress with the wife in exchange for having you back then considerr if you want to go back or not.
 
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