"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mistakes at Work

element0

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How do you guys handle them?

I recently realized I had been working on the wrong part of a project for the better part of a week, and even worse I had been delegating tasks for others to do which means I wasted their time as well.

I'm not sure if I should straight up tell my boss I was working on the wrong thing, or hide it and try to get the work done myself?

Any help is much appreciated.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Drdeee

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If the job worth it, take initiative in making things right without letting know anyone.
 

Warrior74

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If you can correct your mistakes without involving your boss, costing the company more money (more than just your man hours) and bring some excellence to the table, do that first.

If its something critical that may cause problems, bring it up and bring up the solution as well (even better if the solution is underway). Never bring your boss a problem without possible solutions.

The employee they don't have to manage is gem.
 

FoolsCause

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Usually when there's mistakes at work, I keep my mouth shut and let my boss and coworkers continue making them without wise comments from me. I would just get in trouble if I brought the mistakes to their attention.
 

element0

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I ended up telling my boss, but not bluntly, "hey I fvcked up."

Just kind threw it into a conversation when I was discussing documents I needed (for the wrong part of the project). She ended up apologizing to me about not explaining the project clearly enough the first time. The project is going to take one week, instead of the three I initially told her.

No harm, no foul.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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r0cky

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Something similar happened to my friend who is a drug dealer. He was working on a project with his meth supplier. My friend mistakingly was selling the drugs for $60 instead of $80. But he came clean to his supplier and they worked everything out. I haven't seen him since tho.
 
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