"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mistake Report # 1: The "Overly Long Email"

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Hello People.

This is my first post. Today I want to talk to you about a mistake I made so you can avoid it. It's not a revelation, it's just one of those common sense things that you need to hear from time to time not to forget it.

What happened?

I met a chick online. Well, she hitted on me. She just saw my picture, liked it and contacted me. After exchanging various naughty messages and a VERY HOT messenger session where she told me so much dirty things and that she "could fall in love with me" - i.e. "I've already fallen in love with you" - I made a mistake.

I sent her the "Overly Long Email". I tried not to make it too much emotional. Just told her that I liked her too, send her too nice pictures and dedicated to her a song I wrote time ago - I told her that, and she'd already dedicated a song to me. But it was TOO LONG and EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED. I told her how I liked to share fantasies with her because that made me feel CLOSER to her, and at the end of the message I hinted her to get connected and chat with me in a given day. She didn't comply.

What went wrong?

I got her SCARED. For the newbies out there - and myself ;) - a woman is NOT interested in LTR bull****. The emotions are just to much for her to handle. And you shouldn't be PURSUING one either. A relationship should be smooth, a connection that gets deeper over time without the parties even realizing it.

How to fix it

Easy: do nothing. Nothing at all! Just wait till the next time you get to talk to her and have fun. Say, "Hey, how long! I missed you already! How you doing baby?" and see how it goes.

How to avoid it

Never, EVER send a long email :nono: Mine was 6 paragraphs of some 5 lines each PLUS the lyrics for the song that I WROTE MYSELF... PLUS the pictures... :trouble: Limit yourself to 2 or three SHORT paragraphs and BE FUN. Don't be distant, but don't be OVERLY EMOTIONAL.

The funny thing is that all I wrote would have worked wonders if it was in the messenger, but not in the email. Things are different there.

Well, that is my contribution for today. If you want to say something or think that I'm wrong in my observations, please leave a comment and I might edit my post. Discuss so we all can learn!

Best wishes,

Fernando
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ducaro

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Please correct me If I am wrong.. are you from South East Asia?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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ferjcas said:
...Never, EVER send a long email :nono: Mine was 6 paragraphs of some 5 lines each PLUS the lyrics for the song that I WROTE MYSELF... PLUS the pictures... :trouble: ...
Damn, were you on your period or something?:p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah, I agree with you that it was a mistake to send long emails, songs and statements of affection when you haven't MET her yet! :woo:

I think you became her pen pal and she tested you. You responded in a needy manner so of course she got scared off...

As Albert Einstein had said, "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result."

Don't make us slap you. Don't do it again! :)
 

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LoL; I cant write long e-mails like that even if I tried.

It smacks of effort... Your better off writing her a romance novel.
 

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Yeah man, keep it short and simple. Save the rest for in person.
 
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