"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mission Impossible?

drak_ool

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I've finally found a challenge that seems almost impossible to overcome.

This girl goes to grad school with me, she moved across the country about a month ago to come here and she has a boyfriend... that she lives with. She doesn't go out, she didn't participate in any of the "social" events my school organized at bars/clubs, she spends a lot of time in the library. It seems like she's mainly focusing on her studies.

As far as my interactions with her, we had a quick convo but I felt like she politely blew me off. Whenever I see her she acknowledges me, gives me a "hi" and a smile but that's it.

At this point what do you think the best strategy would be? I'm thinking to try to get into some sort of a friend zone, but still maintain flirting on a subtle level and just wait for an occasion to strike. That way, if and when her bf leaves town i could convince her to go grab a few drinks, and then from there anything goes... However, this is a very far fetched theory at this point.

What do you guys think? any better ideas?

and no, this is not "the one girl", she is not my one-itis, i just wanna hit it (hard)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheEdgeOf

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Eugh... She's got a boyfriend, that's no man's land, buddy. Whatever you do, proceed with caution.
 

drak_ool

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please, no lessons on moral

Constructive advice on how to deal with this situation would be greatly appreciated though
 
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