"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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darksprezzatura

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I've lean bulked for almost 5-6 months now.

Been training religiously since 3 years now, still gains have jumped well non-linearly

My strength has gone up:
Bench 225x5
Squats: 315x5
One arm rows: 110x5
Lat pull downs: 291x5
(I don't DL)

I gained to 210 at 6'2 ~15-18% tbf
(probably 20%)

Beginning a cut to 10%

3 month plan:

- Weigh and track every calorie
- Protein Max ~220 g/day
- No carbs apart from veggies
- 30 minute 5x5x2 to preserve strength
- HIIT 20 minutes a day
- Caffeine for higher NEAT
- Hydrate max 6L/day
- 10000 steps a day (buy fitness tracker)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quick and dirty calculation tells me that's about 19lbs of fat. For 3 months you would have to eat a 740 calorie per day deficit. You'll lose more muscle than I would want to and you'll be more hungry than I would want to be. If you plan for 5-6 months at a 400 calorie deficit you'll save muscle, be less hungry and have more leeway for error, and look better at the end.
 

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Quick and dirty calculation tells me that's about 19lbs of fat. For 3 months you would have to eat a 740 calorie per day deficit. You'll lose more muscle than I would want to and you'll be more hungry than I would want to be. If you plan for 5-6 months at a 400 calorie deficit you'll save muscle, be less hungry and have more leeway for error, and look better at the end.
Thanks a lot for this. I've noticed for short term cuts, it's not a big deal to be aggressive.

But you're right a 400 kcal deficit is way higher ROI than 740.

Apart from this, I've picked up running 10k, as the gyms are risky with the new covid wave.
 
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