“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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- Thread starter MisterAl
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MisterAl said:
Those two things clearly illustrate, in my opinion, the problem.
You are going to a lot of dates [which is GOOD].
But you are going to dates with the purpose of generating attraction.
What is that telling me? That you are dating women that you find attractive, but they might not find attractive yet. I NEVER date a woman, unless I'm certain she has attraction for me.
Going to dates is something that many women do for "fun" (e.g. free meals, a good laugh, or having somebody to just sit back and TALK). A way to make FRIENDS. Yep, false advertisement!
RedPill
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia said:Let's put a new twist on the old saying "Familiarity breeds contempt" and change it to "Familiarity breeds consent!" By the way, I ended up spending the night at her house two nights in a row.
Two thumbs up to that whole post. The above line in particular."How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
MisterAl
Don Juan
I'm getting more aggressive with making moves, the kind of stuff that got me girlfriends in the past. I got real friendly with High IL Girl tonight because I stepped it up when I wasn't sure she'd be totally receptive. She was. I think I could have pushed for more but everything went perfectly tonight as it was. I'm aiming for a relationship with this one. Smell her neck, kids. This chick is shy and had no idea what I was doing but she responded to it.
Interesting that I had a conversation with my sister (she's 30) the other day and I asked her what she does when she wants a guy to make out with her. She's pretty obvious and usually makes it pretty clear what she wants from a guy, but she said without coaching that she leans into a guy so he can smell her neck. She knows what she wants.
Fvck generating attraction. Changing focus to maintaining and growing IL. Fortunately for me this leaves me with 3 or 4 ladies with good IL to continue with.
What's clear to me is that having a couple horrible years professionally, emotionally and physically has really cut into my self-esteem and caused me to think negatively about my possibilities. In the past I had been good at relationships but lately figured that nobody would want anything to do with a loser like me. The last two weeks have taught I was wrong.
Important on the self-esteem front: I'm putting a lot of work into making new friendships and I made huge progress this weekend. I use online activity planning groups to meet people and over the weekend I hung out with a group that really welcomed me into their circle. I've needed a new circle for a long time, at least since my old friends starting marrying or moving away.
I was supposed to skydive with these people Saturday but the weather didn't allow it. I decided to skydive specifically to step outside my comfort zone. Waaaaaay outside my comfort zone. I'm looking for a major fvcking life-altering experience. If it stays sunny some one of these weekends I'll be exiting a perfectly working airplane in the sky.
In the meantime I couldn't be happier with how things are going with the women I'm seeing. I'm actually sad that in time I'll end up losing touch with some of them as I eventually get more involved with one in an ltr.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan