"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Missing pieces from my game
- Thread starter MisterAl
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
MisterAl said:
Those two things clearly illustrate, in my opinion, the problem.
You are going to a lot of dates [which is GOOD].
But you are going to dates with the purpose of generating attraction.
What is that telling me? That you are dating women that you find attractive, but they might not find attractive yet. I NEVER date a woman, unless I'm certain she has attraction for me.
Going to dates is something that many women do for "fun" (e.g. free meals, a good laugh, or having somebody to just sit back and TALK). A way to make FRIENDS. Yep, false advertisement!
RedPill
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia said:Let's put a new twist on the old saying "Familiarity breeds contempt" and change it to "Familiarity breeds consent!" By the way, I ended up spending the night at her house two nights in a row.
Two thumbs up to that whole post. The above line in particular.“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
MisterAl
Don Juan
I'm getting more aggressive with making moves, the kind of stuff that got me girlfriends in the past. I got real friendly with High IL Girl tonight because I stepped it up when I wasn't sure she'd be totally receptive. She was. I think I could have pushed for more but everything went perfectly tonight as it was. I'm aiming for a relationship with this one. Smell her neck, kids. This chick is shy and had no idea what I was doing but she responded to it.
Interesting that I had a conversation with my sister (she's 30) the other day and I asked her what she does when she wants a guy to make out with her. She's pretty obvious and usually makes it pretty clear what she wants from a guy, but she said without coaching that she leans into a guy so he can smell her neck. She knows what she wants.
Fvck generating attraction. Changing focus to maintaining and growing IL. Fortunately for me this leaves me with 3 or 4 ladies with good IL to continue with.
What's clear to me is that having a couple horrible years professionally, emotionally and physically has really cut into my self-esteem and caused me to think negatively about my possibilities. In the past I had been good at relationships but lately figured that nobody would want anything to do with a loser like me. The last two weeks have taught I was wrong.
Important on the self-esteem front: I'm putting a lot of work into making new friendships and I made huge progress this weekend. I use online activity planning groups to meet people and over the weekend I hung out with a group that really welcomed me into their circle. I've needed a new circle for a long time, at least since my old friends starting marrying or moving away.
I was supposed to skydive with these people Saturday but the weather didn't allow it. I decided to skydive specifically to step outside my comfort zone. Waaaaaay outside my comfort zone. I'm looking for a major fvcking life-altering experience. If it stays sunny some one of these weekends I'll be exiting a perfectly working airplane in the sky.
In the meantime I couldn't be happier with how things are going with the women I'm seeing. I'm actually sad that in time I'll end up losing touch with some of them as I eventually get more involved with one in an ltr.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan