"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Missing a part in my game!

lifesfun

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I feel like something in my game is missing, I finally got most of my game down, I'm a master at kino, eye contact and escalating once I get the conversation rolling. I can approach girls too but I feel like I dont have enough wit in my game. I always start off good but my momentum in the conversations always die down, my theory is that I need to joke w/ her more about liking me and make banter lines, but it seems like im lacking that very social skill! im not good at joking with things that deal with our interest in each other. maybe its my inner game? can you guys help me out on improving this skill? or any advice on anything else you see flawed in my game; ask if you guys need any more info on situations or stuff. Help please!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Akyu

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Yeah I have the same problem. I think I might have found a solution though. I've found that if you try constantly to just make jokes the conversation is going to die very quickly, so you just have to balance it between being funny and just a normal convo.
 

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Sexual innuendos are the key. Double entendres make everything last.
 

lifesfun

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That my problem though I'm not good at catching moments to put in sexual innuendos, i do use them though when i can... also i m can incorporate any line into my conversation and thats when I have successful fun conversations, but most of the time I think" I could of used that a minute later or a few seconds after I said a different normal conversation response which dies out, then = friends ... i guess i haven't had much experience in talking to people in general...I had my successful night hookups at parties and vacation but at school I cant keep up the banter up after a few interruptions i run out of ideas and there not enough time at lunch to isolate and do my stuff, which=my only successful hookups. how can i get better at this? Where should I put my focus for my game?
 

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aww man theres nothing i do best then playful banter. but i suck at eye contact. go figure. but yeah its easy my advice would be to watch some comedians that you find funny and if they say something funny you can bring it up in the conversation with the girl. or make up crazyy stories that are funny.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i do a lot of banter and teasing et all...

take my advice , do it , but only to an extent.. you dont want to end up as the dancing monkey
 
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