"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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missed date - big deal?

night101

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So I had a first date dinner with this girl tonight, but I was busy at my cousin's wedding and forgot. I just checked my voicemail and she left a message that she's super hungry and waiting for me LOL

(that was a couple hours ago)

what should I do when I see her again/when should I call her back?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tongs

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How the **** do you forget:

a) you had a wedding to go to when you were making the date
b) that you had a wedding to go to when you could have politely called and rescheduled the date

You're a ****.
 

night101

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how I forgot:

when I told her let's have dinner on saturday evening, her response seemed like another way of saying no....

she said I'm joining a study group so if they go have dinner i will go with them, but if not then I'll call you.

so I thought wtf is this ridiculousness, if she's not fully interested... next (i've been reading on here and that's what everyone says to do)


(i was at an engagement ceremony and the music was on real loud and I didn't hear my phone ringing, so I noticed her message way too late)
 

tuxen

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haha well at least it was the other way round for once.

Since you stood her up, have you heard from her? I'm assuming not.

As for rescheduling, i guess it depends on how high her interest levei in you is. The most you can do is apologize and try reschedule.

Failing that, move on.
 

Phyzzle

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You did NOT miss a date!!

She said she'd "call you." So what?? Did you guarantee you'd answer?

If you want to make a date, just make one.

(And you're right, she's not that interested in you)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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