"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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missed date - big deal?

night101

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So I had a first date dinner with this girl tonight, but I was busy at my cousin's wedding and forgot. I just checked my voicemail and she left a message that she's super hungry and waiting for me LOL

(that was a couple hours ago)

what should I do when I see her again/when should I call her back?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tongs

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How the **** do you forget:

a) you had a wedding to go to when you were making the date
b) that you had a wedding to go to when you could have politely called and rescheduled the date

You're a ****.
 

night101

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how I forgot:

when I told her let's have dinner on saturday evening, her response seemed like another way of saying no....

she said I'm joining a study group so if they go have dinner i will go with them, but if not then I'll call you.

so I thought wtf is this ridiculousness, if she's not fully interested... next (i've been reading on here and that's what everyone says to do)


(i was at an engagement ceremony and the music was on real loud and I didn't hear my phone ringing, so I noticed her message way too late)
 

tuxen

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haha well at least it was the other way round for once.

Since you stood her up, have you heard from her? I'm assuming not.

As for rescheduling, i guess it depends on how high her interest levei in you is. The most you can do is apologize and try reschedule.

Failing that, move on.
 

Phyzzle

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You did NOT miss a date!!

She said she'd "call you." So what?? Did you guarantee you'd answer?

If you want to make a date, just make one.

(And you're right, she's not that interested in you)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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