"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mirroring

Awkward

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I know that now all people have started to do mirroring yet, I just wanted you to avoid a real bad misstake I used to make.

You see, I didn't get any results for a couple of weeks ago, the chicks seemed to draw away when I did this mirroring, I was thinking, "Whata****! It doesn't work.". Then when I tried it with my mom, I asked her if she noticed any difference with me.

"Yeeh," she said. "It feels like you are watching me all the time, have your gaze fixed on me, it feels uneasy."

So when you mirror, NEVER EVER stare at the person, you should expand your view and learn to watch something without fixing your eyes to it.

It's ok to look, but look away from time to time, and if you look at the person, always look in the eye!

I think this is a very common misstake that people make in the begining, and there is no warnings about it.

that's my two cents

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Awkward:
"Yeeh," she said. "It feels like you are watching me all the time, have your gaze fixed on me, it feels uneasy."
Staring is just one symptom of a bigger problem: perhaps you're not being subtle enough. Of all the techniques I've used since I've come here, mirroring is the most effective. I have noticed it from other women and seen other women's behavior change drastically when I do it to them. The trick is don't act like you are staring them down or analyzing them. It's most effective when the two of you are in a restaurant together across the table, or some other similar circumstance.
 

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I dont get it, I though maintaining eye contact is a good thing.
 

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I was very observant of every move people made so now I understand why they pulled away.


Mattb

Hell yeah it is good and you should not have too much eye-contact.

--- Awkward
 

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Hey Awkard, have you ever mirrored someone's breathing?

Everywhere says it's very powerful, but I found it very hard to breath someone's breathing...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I do almost NO conscious mirroring. At most, I will mirror basic body positioning and that's it. There are times however in deep rapport situations I find myself doing it without even thinking.

And Brazillian, the problem with mirroring breathing consciously is that you will often end up staring at the girl's chest if you try to do that.

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"Dare to aim high." ~ DeepBlue

"Embrace the unknown." ~ Mystery

"Every human being has so much to offer, it's whether they are willing to give it that makes or breaks their relationship with me." ~ Gunwitch

"All you can do is make sure that YOUR game is tight and your skills are intact. Be prepared for anything and play YOUR game at all times, right down the line." ~ MrSex4uNYC

"Capture and lead her imagination and she will not resist you." ~ Ross Jeffries
 

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I have never tried that, it is too hard to notice so you have tto stare, and the conversation may suffer. Mirroring, arms/legs, posture, common words, voice height/rate and face expressions is more than enough.
 

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Awkward do u have a e-mail?
jeg sliter mye med å sjekke opp damer.......Kanskje du kan hjelpe meg?
 

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I just do basic body mirroring, like the basic position.

Then with breathing I just breathe in when she does, usually i do this breathign mirroring BEFORE approaching.

that way i feel more connected to her, and is not so weird, cuz shes not talking to you, so her breathe is more regualr.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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