"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mirroring

Awkward

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I know that now all people have started to do mirroring yet, I just wanted you to avoid a real bad misstake I used to make.

You see, I didn't get any results for a couple of weeks ago, the chicks seemed to draw away when I did this mirroring, I was thinking, "Whata****! It doesn't work.". Then when I tried it with my mom, I asked her if she noticed any difference with me.

"Yeeh," she said. "It feels like you are watching me all the time, have your gaze fixed on me, it feels uneasy."

So when you mirror, NEVER EVER stare at the person, you should expand your view and learn to watch something without fixing your eyes to it.

It's ok to look, but look away from time to time, and if you look at the person, always look in the eye!

I think this is a very common misstake that people make in the begining, and there is no warnings about it.

that's my two cents

--- Awkward
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by Awkward:
"Yeeh," she said. "It feels like you are watching me all the time, have your gaze fixed on me, it feels uneasy."
Staring is just one symptom of a bigger problem: perhaps you're not being subtle enough. Of all the techniques I've used since I've come here, mirroring is the most effective. I have noticed it from other women and seen other women's behavior change drastically when I do it to them. The trick is don't act like you are staring them down or analyzing them. It's most effective when the two of you are in a restaurant together across the table, or some other similar circumstance.
 

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I dont get it, I though maintaining eye contact is a good thing.
 

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I was very observant of every move people made so now I understand why they pulled away.


Mattb

Hell yeah it is good and you should not have too much eye-contact.

--- Awkward
 

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Hey Awkard, have you ever mirrored someone's breathing?

Everywhere says it's very powerful, but I found it very hard to breath someone's breathing...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I do almost NO conscious mirroring. At most, I will mirror basic body positioning and that's it. There are times however in deep rapport situations I find myself doing it without even thinking.

And Brazillian, the problem with mirroring breathing consciously is that you will often end up staring at the girl's chest if you try to do that.

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"Dare to aim high." ~ DeepBlue

"Embrace the unknown." ~ Mystery

"Every human being has so much to offer, it's whether they are willing to give it that makes or breaks their relationship with me." ~ Gunwitch

"All you can do is make sure that YOUR game is tight and your skills are intact. Be prepared for anything and play YOUR game at all times, right down the line." ~ MrSex4uNYC

"Capture and lead her imagination and she will not resist you." ~ Ross Jeffries
 

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I have never tried that, it is too hard to notice so you have tto stare, and the conversation may suffer. Mirroring, arms/legs, posture, common words, voice height/rate and face expressions is more than enough.
 

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Awkward do u have a e-mail?
jeg sliter mye med å sjekke opp damer.......Kanskje du kan hjelpe meg?
 

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I just do basic body mirroring, like the basic position.

Then with breathing I just breathe in when she does, usually i do this breathign mirroring BEFORE approaching.

that way i feel more connected to her, and is not so weird, cuz shes not talking to you, so her breathe is more regualr.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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