"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mirroring will not make rapport

Dell SkyCat

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This isn't something earthshattering or the newest photo of mars surface but it's been something I've been meaning to write but haven't had the chance or have been involved with more important matters.... However, I will keep it short. You all know what rapport is and you've all experience rapport throughout your life to one extent or another. If you think you haven't then just think back on your bestfriend and how and where you met and what' you've connected with. You probably didn't realize the exact precise moment the connection was made because you were so INTO the other person and not really focused WITHIN until after you found yourself Agreeing with this person.

Anyhow from the above you will remember that it was something genuine that occured or else this person you would not consider your best friend. Mirroring does a lot of nothing... I've found I was able to create a connection without having to mirror the other person.... Mirroring does indeed tend to happen AFTER rapport.
For instance, When you turn on your car you see that smoke may come out of the car from the muffler exhaust. And it was a result of AFTER TURNING YOUR CAR ON.

Now ask yourself this good question... Will the car automatically be turned on if you were to take that smoke and put it back into where it came from??? And the answer is NO. Even when the smoke comes out it doesn't mean the car is on.

Hey don't take my word for it... next time you meet someone new... mirror them and you will find out on your own. Don't see mirroring as a technique to get rapport but just look at it as a sign of being already in rapport.

PEACE
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ricky

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OK, I guess all those guys who wrote sales and persuasion books are wrong on this one.

I don't know from personal experience, but many things I read have considered mirroring important. Of course physically mirroring a person means nothing if the conversation isn't working for them.
 

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How many people did you try to mirror?
What circumstances?
What did you talk about?

When I started mirroring, I wasn't congruent and this ruined the experience.
 

Ricky

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What do you mean about not being congruent. I've heard many of this terms but am not always sure what it means.
 

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This guys right i believe. When you meet new people especially girls, ive found its best not to mirror them. This is especially true before you approach. I noticed these things, because ive encountered girls that have mirrored me. And i believe many girls are up on the trick. If youre paying attention to someone, even if you arent making it obvious, sometimes they can still pick it up.

For example, if there is a girl whos pretending not to be interested in me. I look at the clock or my watch , if she responds in kind, (mirroring me), i will know she was secretly paying very close attention to what i do.

I bet you 1000$ bucks HBs are up on that trick, and i guarantee you it wont get you IL.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Once you make the attempt to mirror people sincerely, you will end up by integrating it to your subconsious.So you would end up mirroring people naturally.And I have found it to be helpful...somehow it seems to evoke empathy from my side.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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What if a woman you have no interest starts mirroring you? Would you fall for it? Probably not.

Unless there is some type of chemistry or rapport straight on, mirroring is just a waste of time. There's no magic exercise anyone can do to make a person interested in another. The best you can do is increase her IL only if it exists in the first place.
 
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