Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Minimum time for no contact?

John.Peter151

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Hey guys,

As I've read in an e-book, a women usually starts missing you at the time of 3-4 weeks. Is this really a sychlogical fact or just an example estimation?

Did anyone here ever had success with the No contact rule to get their ex back, or to rebuild attraction?

What is the minimum time we should be knowing in which we shoudn't be expecting to hear from our girl friend, in case of a breakup.

Thanks..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Skalioppe

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NC is about focusing and repairing yourself and getting over your ex. It's not designed for getting an ex back.

However, in some of the articles I've read, missing someone due to absence seems to start at about one month and peak at about 2 months. After 3 months they are normally over any need for you and probably busy sucking another guy's c0ck anyway.

When I've gone NC, I pretty much get contacted in the first week (what I call the swansong contact - last ditch attempt to keep you worshipping them again) and then again during the 4-6 week (when they probably do miss you).

Don't rely on NC for getting someone back, 85-90% of the time you'll end up disappointed.
 

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John.Peter151 said:
As I've read in an e-book, a women usually starts missing you at the time of 3-4 weeks. Is this really a sychlogical fact or just an example estimation?
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There is no limit, the girl will contact you based on what's going on with her life. It could be 2 weeks, it could be 2 years, it could be never. When and if she does finally contact you she'll do it for several possible reasons. She may want validation. She may strike out with the other guy. She may want to screw with your head. She may be bored. Do any of these reasons sound good?

Generally if you've resorted to NC the relatoinship is dead or will most certainly be in due time. The only instance in which NC has worked for me is when I dump the girl first. And I always regret taking them back. Which is why I don't do it anymore. I use NC strictly to get over women. You should do the same.
 

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John.Peter151 said:
Hey guys,

As I've read in an e-book, a women usually starts missing you at the time of 3-4 weeks. Is this really a sychlogical fact or just an example estimation?

Did anyone here ever had success with the No contact rule to get their ex back, or to rebuild attraction?

What is the minimum time we should be knowing in which we shoudn't be expecting to hear from our girl friend, in case of a breakup.

Thanks..
1) "Pyschological".

2) No Contact should be used for a lifetime. I've never seen an example of two people getting back together after a breakup and having it work out well in the long run. Either they end up breaking up again, getting married and then getting divorced, or still in a miserable relationship but with both parties too afraid of being alone to actually end something they both hate.

Move on. There's 3.5 billion proverbial fish in the sea. Quite a few of them are going to be a better catch.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Uberguy said:
1) "Pyschological".

2) No Contact should be used for a lifetime. I've never seen an example of two people getting back together after a breakup and having it work out well in the long run. Either they end up breaking up again, getting married and then getting divorced, or still in a miserable relationship but with both parties too afraid of being alone to actually end something they both hate.

Move on. There's 3.5 billion proverbial fish in the sea. Quite a few of them are going to be a better catch.
Ahem.. "Psychological"
 

georgie24

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agreed with what everyone else is saying

NC is for your own personal sake, if your doing it with motives of emotional manipulation then i or anyone else cant help you, thats your one way ticket to your own destiny
 

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