"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mingling with ugly girls and other guys

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Im not going to lie here. Most of the time when I head into a crowded drinking area, I do get a little nervous... that is before I get to drinking. Maybe I should start drinking beforehand.

The point is, I usually just know the one or two people that I came with, so I feel like I should set up rapport with other people. Honestly, I am usually one of the better looking guys wherever I go, but I always find myself starting off talking to other guys or the fun looking ugly girls, and then working my way up the ladder, until at the end of the night, I know like half the bar, and am finally starting to talk to the pretty ones.

I would like to say the point of me going out is to have fun, which to some extent it is, but we all know that we go out to find some slut and **** her. The problem with starting slow is that it really messes up the numbers game, and I feel like I am overly invested into the final few ladies that I talk to that are actually ****able.



is this helping to build social proof? or is it a DLV? like, this guy is really sociable? or this guy does not have the balls to directly approach the finer women in the room. how do you guys do it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lol, Starting drinking early should be for fun, not the nerves. Don't worry about approaching the "fun girls". Just focus on what you went there to do. And go after that ****. If you have confidence. Then you can't lose. And if you do get rejected. Then you'll just have learned a couple things not to do.
 
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powpow said:
Im not going to lie here. Most of the time when I head into a crowded drinking area, I do get a little nervous... that is before I get to drinking. Maybe I should start drinking beforehand.

The point is, I usually just know the one or two people that I came with, so I feel like I should set up rapport with other people. Honestly, I am usually one of the better looking guys wherever I go, but I always find myself starting off talking to other guys or the fun looking ugly girls, and then working my way up the ladder, until at the end of the night, I know like half the bar, and am finally starting to talk to the pretty ones.

I would like to say the point of me going out is to have fun, which to some extent it is, but we all know that we go out to find some slut and **** her. The problem with starting slow is that it really messes up the numbers game, and I feel like I am overly invested into the final few ladies that I talk to that are actually ****able.



is this helping to build social proof? or is it a DLV? like, this guy is really sociable? or this guy does not have the balls to directly approach the finer women in the room. how do you guys do it?
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you sound very balanced.
Please stay just like this.
cause pretty girls will see you talking to girls they know are obviously less attractive than them and will think. Ha this guy is fun and sociable. And when you talk to her they won't feel like you're just talking to them to get some :) which is not offending at all but feels like you are not very fun and make them feel liek whatever you say they aim will be to score them.
So yes, if you do the way you do right now it's perfect. The hot girl will think want to score them as well since you end up with them but also that you're nice and sociable and fun. This way you score And build a social network.
perfect perfect perfect.

also i would add: don't talk to not pretty girls like you want to score them. Make it obviously friendly for the hot girl that might notice you're talking to the ugly. Maybe while you're talking with the less attractive girls, look around if you can make eye contact/smile with a hot girl that would be looking in your direction. Then just stop looking at her/ don't approach her straight away and keep talking the less attractive/fun ones.
 
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powpow said:
man I have confidence for DAYS... after Ive been drinking lol
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Lol! Nothing wrong with that! You already have everything working well for you so far, try bringing some female friends to the bar with you next time? It sounds weird but it works wonders.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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