"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mindset is all

playa99

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I posted last week about how I was on a drought... woman wise; and it's taught me a BIG lesson when it comes to anything in life...

MINDSET IS ALL.

I've struggled to get back into form since splitting with my LTR and its took longer than I thought to start getting back on form, i still aint there yet, its the biggest break i've had from gaming ever! back when I was in college I was talking to women every day, that isn't part of my life now, due to how busy I am with work and the profession i'm in.

I was convinced I was on a drought myself and my actions etc reflected that also.

However..


I went out with my buddies Saturday and a solid 7 started dancing on me, grinding and I wasn't really making a move on her, which is the main thing lacking in being a DJ, i do great and just completely miss clear signs of interest when i'm gaming someone... Closing is my main issue, but I know that will come in time.

I ended up making out with her eventually, my mentality changed when i did and since then i've naturally been getting a lot more interest!

it's the main problem i see guys having here, there mentality is that of someone stuck in a rejection cycle, change that and your on to a winner!

You know, i've been out a while and me not being back in the swing of things for 6-8 months is like ring rust to a boxer, it will come back, it is coming back, and persistence in trying to get where i'm going will pay off.

The game has changed massively these past two years in my area/ age group and i'm beginning to adapt to that!

Thats the problem with rules, and why MINDSET is key.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i do great and just completely miss clear signs of interest when i'm gaming someone... Closing is my main issue, but I know that will come in time.

Or you see the signs(girl is grinding on your d1ck im sure you notice) and just have fear of rejection. ACTION.

You know, i've been out a while and me not being back in the swing of things for 6-8 months is like ring rust to a boxer, it will come back, it is coming back, and persistence in trying to get where i'm going will pay off.

Or you just think "Ive always had it, never lost it. Its back NOW". And wala no waiting for months. Think confidence and youll be confident.
 

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True, I think its both, i've missed signs before in other situations and been scared of rejection...

MORE ACTION IS NEEDED!

Good advice tho man!
 
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