Mindfulness

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

stevejabba

Don Juan

Dec 16, 2012

I just answered a thread where a guy was asking how to be "in state" as much as possible.

One often overlooked area of pickup is mindfulness. I used to suffer from depression and anxiety and consulted a CBT therapist. He taught me about mindfulness, which helped me greatly, and this also had a knock on impact on my pick up.

My state was always MY No1 issue to, so this was a revelation for me.

Anyway I have written an article about this which I am sharing here in the hope that it may help some of you.

http://www.authenticpua.com/dating-articles/mindfulness-in-pua/

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.