Mindfulness

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

stevejabba

Don Juan

Dec 16, 2012

I just answered a thread where a guy was asking how to be "in state" as much as possible.

One often overlooked area of pickup is mindfulness. I used to suffer from depression and anxiety and consulted a CBT therapist. He taught me about mindfulness, which helped me greatly, and this also had a knock on impact on my pick up.

My state was always MY No1 issue to, so this was a revelation for me.

Anyway I have written an article about this which I am sharing here in the hope that it may help some of you.

http://www.authenticpua.com/dating-articles/mindfulness-in-pua/

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.