"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mind over matter:Happiness

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GetFit66

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How do you guys keep your subconscious in check.

What I believe about subconsciousness: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=208597

To expand on that, I firmly believe I can do anything I put my mind too, and I don't have any real things that are negative in my life (things that deserve to bring me down). I'm happy with my brain and I'm fairly happy with my looks (I'm no Brad Pitt but hey, I turn my self on when I look in the mirror :) if that makes sense)

I just feel like when my brain wants to be down and go into lazy drag mode, it will do so. I know I can change it if I chose so but I'm content. But I wanna be happy!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Happiness is the single best thing for oneself in my opinion. If you are happy with yourself and your surroundings you will naturally be more confident, which may in turn may make you even happier.

How do I keep myself in check? Well I make an effort to smile, even to myself if I'm alone. It can put you in such a good mood, just smiling and enjoying the moment, no matter what you are doing. I can get myself pumped and in a great mood walking to campus for lectures just listening to my music.

I think to be happy as well you have to challenge yourself, to have new experiences, and this is where the brain tries to keep you lazy, it is happy with how things are going, and is resistant to change. At these times I only do one thing, I laugh at myself for resisting something which isn't really going to hurt me, and then I find myself actually doing it. In turn that makes me happier.

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Some people call the subconscious by another name: the 'shadow' self.

Its like your shadow, that follows you around.

There is your pain, your loneliness, your self-doubt, and all those other mysterious things.

Most of our growth comes from integrating the shadow self - e.g. hugging this shadow until it becomes a part of you. You can be "happy" for example, but that doesnt cause you to grow very much. (Well, sometimes it does!)

Embracing sadness, difficulty, struggle, learning to accept your inner pain, misery, and your faults: thats what it means to come to peace with the shadow self.

And there are rewards to doing so.

Happiness without the shadow self: flighty, fake, two-dimensional, fake-positive, feel-good, fake-cheerful, hollow.

Happiness with the shadow self: deeply confident, assured, restful, with a calmness that can look sadness and happiness in the face and not change expression or look away.

Thats why its cool to be sad sometimes!
 
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