RickTheToad
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Cute video. Posted by NBC news. Look at the downvotes. This, is what men have to select from in New York City (and the surrounding area). 99% garbage.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This is what women have always thought, it was never this in your face. Between third wave feminism, the courts, white knights, we have all been conditioned to allow this. John Wayne, he'd have never put up with this sh*t, nor would many in his generation. Someone would have been put over the knee and spanked into submission and put in their place.
RickTheToad
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Yes, but many men do not know this.
Do you honestly think it would matter to those men even if they did. Those women could be laughing in their f*cking faces and they'd probably laugh right along with them. But don't take it from me, I'm pretty jaded towards women and relationships anymore, so maybe I'm not a good barometer.
RickTheToad
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Just have to view the ladies with a red pill lens. When it's over, it's over. Can't develop feelings for them, as they sure as well will not develop the same types of feelings for you. Men and ladies love differently. Men are the romantics, ladies are the how can you improve my life and family.
It's just how it is. The important thing to remember, not go in w/o a jimmy hat. Don't marry and don't procreate. You can wine and dine them, but don't buy them gifts either. So many men do the later. It's pathetic. If it's their birthday or Christmas, and you've been seeing her for a minute, 20 buck gift and a card. Ladies are their own person. They like to have fun, but in terms of life, they do not know what they truly want until much later in life. It's just your turn at the wheel. Know when to hit the road and move on.
Words to live by.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Too late for me friend, now it's trying to figure out how to make due with a less than optimal marriage. Many options in my brain, trying to figure out which is the best path for me.
RickTheToad
Moderator
It's never too late. I've been in relationships where the lady either wanted to leave or just do the FWB thing. I never ran after her and just shown her the door for the first option. As for the second option, that didn't work for me, so I left. You'd be surprised how surprised when I just said bye. I guess that doesn't happen often.
IIRC, you are married. Have you considered to put together a slush fund? Use your marital monies and buy gold and silver on the credit card. Perhaps, visit a casino every now and then. Reason being, a family court would be more lenient on you IF they see you have a gambling and drinking problem. Of course you'd have go to GA and AA, but you'd win out better than most men in the end. You can also explore an open marriage if you need/want/desire sex. Technically speaking, no sex from a spouse for over a year is considered abandonment. I know my boss went through a divorce and he did okay. Divorce on fault divorce due to abandonment and hired a PI to catch his b!tch cheating on him. Which, lead him to "drink" and "gamble". He started going to GA and AA and six months later filed for divorce with all this proof. She had no idea what hit her. The court took pity on him and he got to keep a lot with 50/50 unsupervised custody, no alimony, he kept his retirement, pension and SS, she kept the house and some other trinkets.
It's possible.
logicallefty
Moderator
Yep agreed. Women are dangerous to men in general, but white knight men are particularly dangerous to us seasoned red pill guys. We understand women and can navigate their rivers of sh|t pretty efficiently now and overcome their obsticles, tactics, etc. But the white knight men who protect them are probably more dangerous to us when you really stop and think about it. All of our red pill knowledge doesn't necessarily help us with them.