"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MILF keeps texting. What to do?

custardpie

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So I've got a date set up with a tight bodied, little 38yr old woman off POF for this friday night. Only problem is she keeps texting me every day. I know the rule no texting only for meet ups no chit chat but this is unavoidable.

I'm guessing it means she has high IL but I'm worried through her incessant texting she will be bored before our date has a chance of happening. I can't just ignore her or she'll get pissed off and probably cancel anyway so how to go about this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You've never met her! There should be only ONE text from you now, and that would be to confirm the time and date. She's already on/in your mind and you know nothing about her. Not good. You cannot judge IL with texting, it can only be done in person. Trek carefully with a texting freak and don't join the charade. Leave that for the AFC's, beta's, orbiters and her male/female girlfriends.
 
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It's always her that initiates the texting, not me. I try and give as short answers as possible without asking her questions, just statements really.
I will take your advice and tell her I'm busy next time even if I'm not.
 

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Another one today - "Morning x"

I get these every day, sometimes it's "Evening x" lol
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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CMNILS87

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Rearrange your date night. Tell her you have to Problems with Friday and can meet on Tuesday night instead of Friday. You'll really check her interest level and see if she's DTF. Id rather know now in a day rather than get 4 more good morning texts and ignore them
 

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Don't rearrange. She has high IL. As long as she's initiating then just role with it
 

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Rearrange your date night. Tell her you have to Problems with Friday and can meet on Tuesday night instead of Friday. You'll really check her interest level and see if she's DTF. Id rather know now in a day rather than get 4 more good morning texts and ignore them
Can't arrange anytime sooner as she has a daughter to look after and she'll be going to her dads this friday. I know what you're saying and I agree, I always try to avoid setting up dates more than 3 days ahead as it gives her chance to meet someone else/change her mind in the meantime.
 

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I had one blowing up my phone, would be "upset" if she couldn't get 50 texts a damn day out of me. I told her I have to work.... guess what? We NEVER f@cked..... She was trying to get me all invested, but she wasn't.... sometimes women love to talk,,,,, doesn't means she's all that hot for you. UNTIL you are both naked....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well who would have thought, b1tch FLAKED on me.

She had a tooth out the other day and I spoke for about 10 mins with her yesterday on the phone she seemed fine. She said she would ring me back in the evening as the call cut off from bad reception. She was laughing and seemed ok on the phone, asking me questions and everything. I know when I'm bad on the phone and this wasn't one of those times, I was ****y/funny teased her that she should start brushing her teeth lol

So then this morning I get a txt saying she's got an abscess and 'looks like elephant man' whatever the fvck that means and has to cancel our date. Said she was 'really sorry' twice lol whatever. I didn't mention arranging another time I just said 'ok, hope you feel better soon'. No reply.

Not sure if she had another better option swoop in last minute or she just didn't like something about me on the phone...and there is the slight possibility she's telling the truth but who cares. She has dropped to the bottom of my list of priorities now.

B1tches wasting my time is what p1sses me off the most. Do these girls just do this for kicks or what. This is getting tiresome...
 

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hmmm I would say the Universe has done you a serious favor. A single mother AND an american woman to boot? That violates all the principles of learning game in the first place. How low are you on the totem pole when you are begging for sloppy seconds that a baby has emerged from!? Jesus man, go to Asia or south america and get yourself a fresh one but please do not disgrace yourself like that again.
 

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Not any real difference in western women. They are only small degrees of differences in feminism..... Almost all are warped...
 
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