Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you said you were thinking of shooting yourself, so yeah i think dying from a night of partying too hard with coke and wh0res is betterskinnyguy said:So if you're ugly, overdosing on coke is the answer? Oh gee, thanks man.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I never said I was going to make a ton of money in 5 years. I said I would marry a woman who has more money than me. And there's plenty of Indian chicks who are professionals making good $$$$. If she's cute, can cook, and earns, it's a win win for me and I didn't need to spit game in order to get her.foreverAFC said:the op is obviously a troll, but for the sake of conversation, if you really believed that you were going to be making serious money in 5 years that may actually make you more attractive to women, why the fck would you want to get married now? when you finally get the place in life when more women are receptive to you because of your career, you are stuck in some shltty marriage, sounds like a great plan.
lol. and which parent in their right mind is going to marry their daughter off to a man who earns less money than their daughter. many indians are very big on status and how others percieve them and a man who earns less than their daughter would be an embarrassment.skinnyguy said:I never said I was going to make a ton of money in 5 years. I said I would marry a woman who has more money than me. And there's plenty of Indian chicks who are professionals making good $$$$. If she's cute, can cook, and earns, it's a win win for me and I didn't need to spit game in order to get her.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm Asian myself and work in an environment with a lot of Indians(I'm not indian myself). And based on the stories I've exchanged with them, I think arranged marriage works for Indians. Its part of their/your culture.skinnyguy said:Indian guys in India get laid because of arranged marriages. 99% of them are AFC including my dad.
You're wrong. My sister is a doctor and she is marrying some guy who makes 30k a year. Indian parents have very little say these days.sylvester the cat said:lol. and which parent in their right mind is going to marry their daughter off to a man who earns less money than their daughter. many indians are very big on status and how others percieve them and a man who earns less than their daughter would be an embarrassment.
you need to come down to planet earth. as someone pointed out, at the moment you are very selfish. you have no consideration for others which is why no girl wants anything to do with you. what have you got that will benefit others? it's not your personality that's for sure.
when you're ready to start giving to others instead of always being on the take you will be ready.
if indian parents have little say then might i suggest these are not arranged marriages?skinnyguy said:You're wrong. My sister is a doctor and she is marrying some guy who makes 30k a year. Indian parents have very little say these days.
I'm not a pauper and I have a professional degree. I make good money on my own but I want a wife who makes more so that it's less of a financial risk if we get divorce.
I'm sure that you "alphas" get laid by giving to others. LMAO. Do you buy girls drinks when you meet them?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
they prolly became that way because of stupid customs of arranged marriages.skinnyguy said:Indian guys in India get laid because of arranged marriages. 99% of them are AFC including my dad.
My religion is extremely conservative and oppressive. Sex is totally taboo even though we supposedly invented the Kama sutra. I spent my teenage years whacking off to issues of sports illustrated swimsuit edition when my parents thought I was studying. I also didn't have sex with a girl until I was 20.thunderbolt said:they prolly became that way because of stupid customs of arranged marriages.
Probably. I was extremely coddled as a kid. Also never went out just studied while the white kids were smoking weed and having sex. El Payaso I normally disagree with you but you are spot on this time. I tried carving out a life for myself but I guess I'm still a mommas boy.El Payaso said:Is it possible that most Indian men are beta by default because they have been coddled by mommy and daddy from birth to adulthood including an arranged marriage so they never really got the chance to carve out something for themselves and by themselves?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.