She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
you said you were thinking of shooting yourself, so yeah i think dying from a night of partying too hard with coke and wh0res is betterskinnyguy said:So if you're ugly, overdosing on coke is the answer? Oh gee, thanks man.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I never said I was going to make a ton of money in 5 years. I said I would marry a woman who has more money than me. And there's plenty of Indian chicks who are professionals making good $$$$. If she's cute, can cook, and earns, it's a win win for me and I didn't need to spit game in order to get her.foreverAFC said:the op is obviously a troll, but for the sake of conversation, if you really believed that you were going to be making serious money in 5 years that may actually make you more attractive to women, why the fck would you want to get married now? when you finally get the place in life when more women are receptive to you because of your career, you are stuck in some shltty marriage, sounds like a great plan.
lol. and which parent in their right mind is going to marry their daughter off to a man who earns less money than their daughter. many indians are very big on status and how others percieve them and a man who earns less than their daughter would be an embarrassment.skinnyguy said:I never said I was going to make a ton of money in 5 years. I said I would marry a woman who has more money than me. And there's plenty of Indian chicks who are professionals making good $$$$. If she's cute, can cook, and earns, it's a win win for me and I didn't need to spit game in order to get her.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm Asian myself and work in an environment with a lot of Indians(I'm not indian myself). And based on the stories I've exchanged with them, I think arranged marriage works for Indians. Its part of their/your culture.skinnyguy said:Indian guys in India get laid because of arranged marriages. 99% of them are AFC including my dad.
You're wrong. My sister is a doctor and she is marrying some guy who makes 30k a year. Indian parents have very little say these days.sylvester the cat said:lol. and which parent in their right mind is going to marry their daughter off to a man who earns less money than their daughter. many indians are very big on status and how others percieve them and a man who earns less than their daughter would be an embarrassment.
you need to come down to planet earth. as someone pointed out, at the moment you are very selfish. you have no consideration for others which is why no girl wants anything to do with you. what have you got that will benefit others? it's not your personality that's for sure.
when you're ready to start giving to others instead of always being on the take you will be ready.
if indian parents have little say then might i suggest these are not arranged marriages?skinnyguy said:You're wrong. My sister is a doctor and she is marrying some guy who makes 30k a year. Indian parents have very little say these days.
I'm not a pauper and I have a professional degree. I make good money on my own but I want a wife who makes more so that it's less of a financial risk if we get divorce.
I'm sure that you "alphas" get laid by giving to others. LMAO. Do you buy girls drinks when you meet them?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
they prolly became that way because of stupid customs of arranged marriages.skinnyguy said:Indian guys in India get laid because of arranged marriages. 99% of them are AFC including my dad.
My religion is extremely conservative and oppressive. Sex is totally taboo even though we supposedly invented the Kama sutra. I spent my teenage years whacking off to issues of sports illustrated swimsuit edition when my parents thought I was studying. I also didn't have sex with a girl until I was 20.thunderbolt said:they prolly became that way because of stupid customs of arranged marriages.
Probably. I was extremely coddled as a kid. Also never went out just studied while the white kids were smoking weed and having sex. El Payaso I normally disagree with you but you are spot on this time. I tried carving out a life for myself but I guess I'm still a mommas boy.El Payaso said:Is it possible that most Indian men are beta by default because they have been coddled by mommy and daddy from birth to adulthood including an arranged marriage so they never really got the chance to carve out something for themselves and by themselves?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.