"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Met the Perfect Girl Tonight

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At least the perfect looking girl. Half Asian half Israeli. This girl was a bit shorter than me (i'm 6ft 1), tanned, eurasian features. Just simply perfect.

The only problems are:

1. She lives on the other side of the world.
2. I'm not sure she likes me that much.

I'm not sure I'm ever going to get a girl like that. **** my life. Am living in Asia. Some hot girls here but not like this one. Goddamnit.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Putting her on a mighty fine pedestal up there.
 

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Not sure what the point of your post it.

First of all, you saying that she DOESN"T like you much, means that nothing else about this girl matters. I don't care how perfect she is, if her interest level in you is not there, than what's the point? There are some pretty damn hot girls on TV also and maxim models and what not, and some of them I think look damn near perfect, but what's it to me if unless I meet her and spark attraction? But believe you me, if I'm single, and I do meet them, I'm running game, that's a given lol. If it doesn't work it doesn't work, but at least I'll try, that's for sure.

You should have done the same with this girl. If she was only in town visiting for a little bit, you should have tried to hit it. No, you should not be this nice guy and try to get in a relationship with a girl who lives on the other side of the world. Sure, it's a nice romance story, but it aint' gonna work long term (at least not 98% of the time.. ). So your best bet in this situation would have been to go for the lay. Trust me, as much as you don't think so, that's probably what she would prefer too.

So, first thing to get in mind is:

NO GIRLS ARE PERFECT ... actually having a mind set that some chick is "perfect" is a basis for your oneitis and almost guarantees your doom with that chick.. so get it outta your mind, I dont' care who she is,, she aint' perfect

Second thing is:

IF YOU LIKE A GIRL, "GO FOR IT"... make a move on her.. if she rejects you, simple.. move on.. at least you'll never have to live with that "ohhh I wonder what would have happened had I tried" regret... you NEVER have to live with that if you simply always "go for it"... end of the story..


Third...

BE POSITIVE.... your posts sounds pretty negative.. cheer up.. life is short... don't take everything so seriously... no one gets out alive ;)
 

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sexysuave said:
Not sure what the point of your post it.

First of all, you saying that she DOESN"T like you much, means that nothing else about this girl matters. I don't care how perfect she is, if her interest level in you is not there, than what's the point? There are some pretty damn hot girls on TV also and maxim models and what not, and some of them I think look damn near perfect, but what's it to me if unless I meet her and spark attraction? But believe you me, if I'm single, and I do meet them, I'm running game, that's a given lol. If it doesn't work it doesn't work, but at least I'll try, that's for sure.

You should have done the same with this girl. If she was only in town visiting for a little bit, you should have tried to hit it. No, you should not be this nice guy and try to get in a relationship with a girl who lives on the other side of the world. Sure, it's a nice romance story, but it aint' gonna work long term (at least not 98% of the time.. ). So your best bet in this situation would have been to go for the lay. Trust me, as much as you don't think so, that's probably what she would prefer too.

So, first thing to get in mind is:

NO GIRLS ARE PERFECT ... actually having a mind set that some chick is "perfect" is a basis for your oneitis and almost guarantees your doom with that chick.. so get it outta your mind, I dont' care who she is,, she aint' perfect

Second thing is:

IF YOU LIKE A GIRL, "GO FOR IT"... make a move on her.. if she rejects you, simple.. move on.. at least you'll never have to live with that "ohhh I wonder what would have happened had I tried" regret... you NEVER have to live with that if you simply always "go for it"... end of the story..


Third...

BE POSITIVE.... your posts sounds pretty negative.. cheer up.. life is short... don't take everything so seriously... no one gets out alive ;)
Dude I agree fully. I did go for it but wasn't getting anywhere with it. Lack of game? Lack of attraction? Who knows. Anyway I did my best, even if it wasn't good enough. She's not perfect obviously but perfect looking for me. The thing is bro I live in Asia and i'm so sick of the short, flat girls here. So tonight for the first time in a long long time I met a girl who is 100% my type. Tall, tanned and beautiful (and native English speaking).

There's no point to my post. I'm just drunk and frustrated and trying to get it out of my system. I'm really fed up of Asian girls (ironically given that I know how fed up my American brahs are of US women). Jesus you have some beautiful girls there though.
 

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ha ha got ya..

So are you asian also? Or just living there?

Wouldn't hurt to travel the world a little bit and explore all sorts of different girls, you seem to have a pretty good grasp of the English language.

And yes, the grass seems to "be greener on the other side", I wish more people would realize it. Everyone complains about what they have lol, until they get something else, and then they go on to complain about that ;).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Heh I'm English hence the English language proficiency. I just live and work out here.

It's true about the grass is greener phenomenon. When I came here I really found Asian girls hot (novelty factor). Now I'm sick of them.

I can meet girls easily enough but I absolutely love the tall, tanned beauties. You're right about travelling. I think it's going to have to be a South American country next. I don't think I could ever get sick of those women.

Some Asian girls are beautiful for sure but it's very unusual to find a hot one with curves. At least here. Maybe in Korea or China it's easier.

So anyway, I know i'm putting this girl from tonight on a bit of a pedestal but I guess I was just so excited to meet someone I was massively attracted to for the first time in a long time. And obviously we could communicate as well. Many people speak English here but very few to a really high level.
Well, it can't be helped. Maybe I could have done better but it's just one of those things. There must be lots of girls that look like her in Miami. Just so rare here!
 

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Ok I'm sober now. Sorry guys the thread title was stupid. Should have been 'Met perfect looking girl tonight'.

And sexysuave you're totally right there are perfect looking women on TV, etc. The difference here was this woman felt within my grasp (maybe she wasn't though). We just talked for 40 mins, that's it.

I just can't get interested in 8's and below anymore. But I'm not good enough to get the 9's and 10's. Hence the frustration. Time to up the game, get ripped, etc.
 
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