"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Met online, missed appointment.

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I met this girl on myspace and we set up a date to meet this saturday. She emailed me thursday night and said she won't be able to make it because she'll be visiting her family for the easter. I said cool. We arranged to push it for today and she agreed. We planned to meet at 9pm. At 9, I was at the randezvous but she was not. waited for 10 minutes and called her. She told me she was sick the whole day which was why she was not able to make it. Do you all think this is a good sign? She disppointed me not once but twice in a roll.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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seagull said:
So she didn't even bother to call you to say she couldn't make it? Time to move on to someone else.
She did not have my number then. She only sent an email. What really disturbed me was I had to leave a banquent I was earlier than normal simply to meet her. I think she played me. We haven't seen each other yet though.. I'm sure once she sees me, she'll find me interesting then I'll damp her for her actions.
 

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amoka said:
She did not have my number then. She only sent an email.
I love it when AFC's make excuses for their oneitis's. A DJ wouldn't even ask what to do after getting flaked on. He would move on to one of the other 10 plates he has spinning instead of fretting over "the one".


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MacAvoy said:
I love it when AFC's make excuses for their oneitis's. A DJ wouldn't even ask what to do after getting flaked on. He would move on to one of the other 10 plates he has spinning instead of fretting over "the one".
So you think I should just let her go and never talk to her again? Don't you think that sounds a bit childish?
 

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amoka said:
So you think I should just let her go and never talk to her again? Don't you think that sounds a bit childish?

Questioning this advice is more than a bit childish, you need to read the DJ Bible a few more times.
 

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amoka said:
So you think I should just let her go and never talk to her again? Don't you think that sounds a bit childish?
I'm almost starting to think this post should be in the HS forum instead of this one.
 

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amoka said:
I met this girl on myspace and we set up a date to meet this saturday. She emailed me thursday night and said she won't be able to make it because she'll be visiting her family for the easter. I said cool. We arranged to push it for today and she agreed. We planned to meet at 9pm. At 9, I was at the randezvous but she was not. waited for 10 minutes and called her. She told me she was sick the whole day which was why she was not able to make it. Do you all think this is a good sign? She disppointed me not once but twice in a roll.
Man I can't believe the questions some so-called "men" ask on here. SHE STOOD YOU UP MAN! You need to be slapped for asking if it's a good sign. Common... WTF.

Don't even bother with this selfish ***** anymore bro, she doesn't give a flying fvck about you, or she would have at least called and cancelled.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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did she email you earlier today to tell you that she was not going to make it due to being sick?
if she didnt then i agree with the other guys here by saying she isnt interested.
 

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penkitten said:
did she email you earlier today to tell you that she was not going to make it due to being sick?
if she didnt then i agree with the other guys here by saying she isnt interested.
Apparently she did emailed prior to the appointed time. However, I did not receive the email until after the meeting time. I assumed everything was set. Plus I had to go to a banquet and planned to leave the banquet early to meet her so... yeah she sent an email but I just did not receive it on time to re-orient my plans.
 

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FM 3321 said:
2 strikes and she's out.
1 strikes and she's out! B!tch:box:

Bro, bottom line is you tried twice and you have no date. Even if the first flake was legit (which I'm sure it wasn't) she would have lost any possible interest she might have had in you when you let her fvck you over the second time. PLEASE MOVE ON! :woo:

swampwiz, you better lighten up on dissin' the myspace honey's. I pulled an adorable little 23 y/o off there a few weeks ago that comes over for $ex once or twice a week, gives me a massage and lets herself out. Of course, there were 32 before her that did flake...............

gixx
 

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In online dating, the male pirate is the one who is just lying about himself to get sex with a girl who is unconnected to his social circle, so he can easily get rid of her afterward.

The female pirate is the one who has no intention of ever meeting in real life, but pretends to so that she will get attention. This case sounds like one of those.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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