"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I met this girl on myspace and we set up a date to meet this saturday. She emailed me thursday night and said she won't be able to make it because she'll be visiting her family for the easter. I said cool. We arranged to push it for today and she agreed. We planned to meet at 9pm. At 9, I was at the randezvous but she was not. waited for 10 minutes and called her. She told me she was sick the whole day which was why she was not able to make it. Do you all think this is a good sign? She disppointed me not once but twice in a roll.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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seagull said:
So she didn't even bother to call you to say she couldn't make it? Time to move on to someone else.
She did not have my number then. She only sent an email. What really disturbed me was I had to leave a banquent I was earlier than normal simply to meet her. I think she played me. We haven't seen each other yet though.. I'm sure once she sees me, she'll find me interesting then I'll damp her for her actions.
 

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amoka said:
She did not have my number then. She only sent an email.
I love it when AFC's make excuses for their oneitis's. A DJ wouldn't even ask what to do after getting flaked on. He would move on to one of the other 10 plates he has spinning instead of fretting over "the one".


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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MacAvoy said:
I love it when AFC's make excuses for their oneitis's. A DJ wouldn't even ask what to do after getting flaked on. He would move on to one of the other 10 plates he has spinning instead of fretting over "the one".
So you think I should just let her go and never talk to her again? Don't you think that sounds a bit childish?
 

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amoka said:
So you think I should just let her go and never talk to her again? Don't you think that sounds a bit childish?

Questioning this advice is more than a bit childish, you need to read the DJ Bible a few more times.
 

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amoka said:
So you think I should just let her go and never talk to her again? Don't you think that sounds a bit childish?
I'm almost starting to think this post should be in the HS forum instead of this one.
 

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amoka said:
I met this girl on myspace and we set up a date to meet this saturday. She emailed me thursday night and said she won't be able to make it because she'll be visiting her family for the easter. I said cool. We arranged to push it for today and she agreed. We planned to meet at 9pm. At 9, I was at the randezvous but she was not. waited for 10 minutes and called her. She told me she was sick the whole day which was why she was not able to make it. Do you all think this is a good sign? She disppointed me not once but twice in a roll.
Man I can't believe the questions some so-called "men" ask on here. SHE STOOD YOU UP MAN! You need to be slapped for asking if it's a good sign. Common... WTF.

Don't even bother with this selfish ***** anymore bro, she doesn't give a flying fvck about you, or she would have at least called and cancelled.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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did she email you earlier today to tell you that she was not going to make it due to being sick?
if she didnt then i agree with the other guys here by saying she isnt interested.
 

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penkitten said:
did she email you earlier today to tell you that she was not going to make it due to being sick?
if she didnt then i agree with the other guys here by saying she isnt interested.
Apparently she did emailed prior to the appointed time. However, I did not receive the email until after the meeting time. I assumed everything was set. Plus I had to go to a banquet and planned to leave the banquet early to meet her so... yeah she sent an email but I just did not receive it on time to re-orient my plans.
 

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FM 3321 said:
2 strikes and she's out.
1 strikes and she's out! B!tch:box:

Bro, bottom line is you tried twice and you have no date. Even if the first flake was legit (which I'm sure it wasn't) she would have lost any possible interest she might have had in you when you let her fvck you over the second time. PLEASE MOVE ON! :woo:

swampwiz, you better lighten up on dissin' the myspace honey's. I pulled an adorable little 23 y/o off there a few weeks ago that comes over for $ex once or twice a week, gives me a massage and lets herself out. Of course, there were 32 before her that did flake...............

gixx
 

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In online dating, the male pirate is the one who is just lying about himself to get sex with a girl who is unconnected to his social circle, so he can easily get rid of her afterward.

The female pirate is the one who has no intention of ever meeting in real life, but pretends to so that she will get attention. This case sounds like one of those.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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