Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Met a new girl. Unsure about her behaviour.

summersky

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Hey everyone,

i met a girl through onlinedating and I like her a lot. We went out on a first date and even though it was short, we had much fun. We laughed a lot, had deep conversations, I teased her, had a sexual frame. Didnt do much Kino cause the date was so short and it wasnt the right moment. She is always immediately writing be back if I text her and also pick up the phone everytime. Or calls me, if she is at work.
Few days later I called her to set a new date at my place. She told that the next two weeks will be difficult but since she is on a break from work, she can make it then. I stayed persistent and asked when she has free during the two weeks. She told me a day and we set a date. But she told me I have to remind her before, cause she has a short memory. I said I dont remind girls about dates so she told me she would do it herself.
I am also noticing she is still pretty much active on the dating site we met.

I am a bit unsure. I thought she had high interest in me but now I start to wonder if I was wrong.. What do you think?

Regards
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She is dating other guys. The only thing you can do is put her on the back burner and find more dates.
 

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mangotot said:
She is dating other guys. The only thing you can do is put her on the back burner and find more dates.
Yeah she probably has a lot of dates setup in the next two weeks I'd say.
 

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You think so? She is working in a Restaurant and i know shes really busy. But why would she telling me shes Free in two weeks and i mean she agreed to meet in one week.. We just didnt set a time but the Day is already Set.. Man i cant believe this, she was so interested in the beginning, asked me like hundred questions and was telling me shes happy that she Met a guy like me..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So now i didnt Text Or called her for three days and heared nothing from her. But i wanted to call three days before the date to Set a time.. What do you think maybe i shouldnt call Till she reaches out Or should i and Set a time?
 

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I say play it cool & let her be the one to reach out if she wants to.

If you don't hear anything, just move onto someone else or whatever.
 

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Thanks OMD.. Isnt it worth a try calling her to Set up the time scince we Set up a Day already??
 

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You don't agree or set things up. You lay down the effing rules and Tell her a time. Man up take control.
 

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summersky said:
You think so? She is working in a Restaurant and i know shes really busy. But why would she telling me shes Free in two weeks and i mean she agreed to meet in one week.. We just didnt set a time but the Day is already Set.. Man i cant believe this, she was so interested in the beginning, asked me like hundred questions and was telling me shes happy that she Met a guy like me..
Man, take it from me. You can't hold much of what women say as "accountable". She had a good time and felt emotional and was expressing that. Go off what women do rather than what they say. Woman change their "feelings" daily. Don't get invested in her. I tell my guys to view women as pets/entertainment at most. I don't care what they tell you, they can drop you in a week, for no real reason.

IF she is interested as she said, she should get a hold of you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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