"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met a great girl but I am too busy to hang out. How do I keep interest level up?

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Hi everyone, I was recently set up with a really cute girl. One of my friends set me up and I took her out to a nice restaurant. We had a little to drink, went to a club. I escalated and while she was leaning over to say something, I kissed her and we kissed for about 60 seconds. Later that night after dancing, I took her home and stayed over at her place.

Anyway, the interest is there. Only problem is that I live about 2 hours away and I have a job where I will be tied up on three consecutive weekends, so I cannot go out of town to see her.

The reason I was set up is because I am moving into her town in May.

How do I keep interest level up? I have only met her once, as I described above.... Can I ask her to come and visit me?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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absolutely tell her to visit you., but let her think it is her idea. Phone her every few days and see what's up. If you like texting, this is one of the few situations where I owuld advise it, but becareful not on what you send. keep it fun, but make sure there is no way it can be misenterperated. AND STILL CALL. Tell her about some awesome new local bar or restaraunt, or some other local attraction. When she shows a little interest, use the oppurtunity to set up a date with her.
 
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Not sure if this has been discussed often, but....

If you are sure that you won't be seeing a girl for a couple weeks, what is the appropriate thing to do? Call once per week? Send a couple texts once in a while?
 
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