Nis786
Don Juan
Hi guys,I am from India.
I am employed in government sector at top post. I broke up with my gf 1 year back & was not ready for marriage but then for my parents sake i agreed to meet the girl they selected for arrange marriage.
So I went to meet her with families of both side,but luckily we got chance to sit alone for half an hour to talk about our liking & expectations. She was quite a fast forward & she even told me that she says what she feels. Her family is not financially strong & she is their only daughter & she is sports teacher at some reputed school. She was quite good looking but little overweight. She also said that many guys try to hit on her,so she make them brother. She also said that she was in serious relationship 2 years back but that guy cheated on her,so it was ended.
anyway we had a nice talk & our wavelength also seemed to matched. We exchanged numbers. Later we decided to take it slowly & try to know each other more as it was only first meeting.
Later on the day,she messaged me that it was a lovely meeting & she liked it & would like me to visit her city in free time to spend some time. I agreed.
Next day itself while we were talking on phone,she told me that she discussed with her family & they think marriage should be between financially equal family,otherwise later it may be problem. I said her that me & my family are only looking for a nice girl & i will be fully supportive towards her career. but she said if she can't go against her parents & if she wanted to do love marriage she would have done earlier.
i said if you don't like me,tell me directly. She said she don't like any one. Family forced her to meet,so she met. so i asked her about our conversation that day & she replied that it was all true & nice but now she can't proceed & told me that we can be friends,which i declined. And,then we stopped talking & she blocked me from social network....all these happened in gap of 48 hours.
The thing i don't understand what happened suddenly because she herself gave her phone number & said we should meet & proceed slowly & she also like me.
Can you guys tell me did i made any mistake? because i am failed to understand sudden change in her view.
Sorry for essay . But i needed to write full story to seek right advice. Please help me out guys.
Edited :- I forgot to mention that when she texted me after meeting, i also told her that i too liked meeting her & quite liked her.
I am employed in government sector at top post. I broke up with my gf 1 year back & was not ready for marriage but then for my parents sake i agreed to meet the girl they selected for arrange marriage.
So I went to meet her with families of both side,but luckily we got chance to sit alone for half an hour to talk about our liking & expectations. She was quite a fast forward & she even told me that she says what she feels. Her family is not financially strong & she is their only daughter & she is sports teacher at some reputed school. She was quite good looking but little overweight. She also said that many guys try to hit on her,so she make them brother. She also said that she was in serious relationship 2 years back but that guy cheated on her,so it was ended.
anyway we had a nice talk & our wavelength also seemed to matched. We exchanged numbers. Later we decided to take it slowly & try to know each other more as it was only first meeting.
Later on the day,she messaged me that it was a lovely meeting & she liked it & would like me to visit her city in free time to spend some time. I agreed.
Next day itself while we were talking on phone,she told me that she discussed with her family & they think marriage should be between financially equal family,otherwise later it may be problem. I said her that me & my family are only looking for a nice girl & i will be fully supportive towards her career. but she said if she can't go against her parents & if she wanted to do love marriage she would have done earlier.
i said if you don't like me,tell me directly. She said she don't like any one. Family forced her to meet,so she met. so i asked her about our conversation that day & she replied that it was all true & nice but now she can't proceed & told me that we can be friends,which i declined. And,then we stopped talking & she blocked me from social network....all these happened in gap of 48 hours.
The thing i don't understand what happened suddenly because she herself gave her phone number & said we should meet & proceed slowly & she also like me.
Can you guys tell me did i made any mistake? because i am failed to understand sudden change in her view.
Sorry for essay . But i needed to write full story to seek right advice. Please help me out guys.
Edited :- I forgot to mention that when she texted me after meeting, i also told her that i too liked meeting her & quite liked her.
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