"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met a girl at aparty, question though

RandomGuy22

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I met a girl at an after-prom party, and we were talking. I go tkinda drunk and we rflirted all night (she did lots of kino, and her cousin told me she liked me). Well they left and i was drunk, so i stupidly gave her my number instead of getting hers. anyway, her cousin IM'd me today (she got my s/n from a friend) and asked if i wanted the girls number / s/n. I said no at first, b/c I like to do it alone. But i then said "on second thought, ok" and did it b/c I never see her at school so I don't know when I would ge tthe chacne to get her number. SO I IM'd her, nothing afc, said hey what's up blah blah, waited moments before replying etc. basically I treated her like everyone else on my buddy list. Wha ti'm wondering is...

a) She didn't call me today (I'm not really worried though, b/c if I got her number she owuldn't get a call till weds)
b) Should I still try to get her number at school if I see her? Or should I call her and tell her I go the numbe from her cousin?

p.s. her cousin kept asking if I liked her, and I replied "yeah, she was cool" I'm 99% sure that the cousin repeated everything I typed to the girl..

anyway, help. plz
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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Help yourself for Christ's sake. Who gives a flying fvck if she didn't call you? Here's my plan for you.

Go and find a coin, preferably a quarter.

Flip it. Heads you call her, tails you forget about her.

If you decide that doesn't work for you, try making a decision for yourself. It's better to trust a coin than guys you've never even met before.
 

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I'm not an expert and I'm not pretending to be. So if this is wrong just let me know.

But why don't YOU call her, an unexpected call from someone she likes would be great to rebreak the ice. Chances are that neither of you were being that coherrant but letting her know that you remember her and like her enough to call her is a good start. Then see if she wants to go out sometime.

When she asks how you got her number just say that when you want something you get it.

Good luck.
 

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or go up to her at school and speak to her for god's sake, its the best form of communication as virtual communication does nto metamorphose into physical attraction very well
 

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Speak to her in person or call her to arrange somewhere to meet. Don't keep it strictly on the phone or IM.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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