messaging question

[CostaDeSol]

I met this hb 7.5 in summer school. After not seeing her in 5 weeks she contacts me on Facebook asking me how am i. I respond by telling her I'm fine and then ask her how her semester is going. but she doesn't reply back to answer my question.


has this ever happened to you? She initiated contact but then just left me hanging.

I want to know if you guys thinks she is just looking for attention or is it just her way of telling me i should make a move and ask her out since she initiated contact.

The biggest IOI i got from her was that she was impressed with my academic record and would ask me repeatedly for advice. I don't actually think thats an IOI.

 

[Chamber36]

well if she asks you for advice then you have value in her eyes.
If she initiates contact with you then she wants your attention. But don't give her too much attention or she will somehow be satisfied and probably leave you hanging. So I would ask her directly if she wants to hang out.

If she gives you an excuse just wait for her to initiate contact with you again. Either that or she agrees. Then you wait and see if she flakes. In which case you do the same(wait for her to contact you again).

 

[universitycharmer]

TSorry man, but that was not an IOI nor was it good that she stopped responding on facebook. What you should have said when she how you are was something along the lines of "I've been great even though I haven't gotten to hang out with my little summer school buddy "
That is just flirty enough to show her a little bit of interest (acting UNinterested isn't always the right thing to do) that may make her feel comfortable enough to start flirting on the off chance she was interested. Also instead of saying "how is your semester going" you could have tried "So after all that time in summer school I take it your semester is going well at Harvard "

 

[CostaDeSol]

well if she asks you for advice then you have value in her eyes.
If she initiates contact with you then she wants your attention. But don't give her too much attention or she will somehow be satisfied and probably leave you hanging. So I would ask her directly if she wants to hang out.

If she gives you an excuse just wait for her to initiate contact with you again. Either that or she agrees. Then you wait and see if she flakes. In which case you do the same(wait for her to contact you again).

I believe you are right when you say that I have value in her eyes and that I should be direct in asking her out. thanks for the input.

 

[CostaDeSol]

TSorry man, but that was not an IOI nor was it good that she stopped responding on facebook. What you should have said when she how you are was something along the lines of "I've been great even though I haven't gotten to hang out with my little summer school buddy "
That is just flirty enough to show her a little bit of interest (acting UNinterested isn't always the right thing to do) that may make her feel comfortable enough to start flirting on the off chance she was interested. Also instead of saying "how is your semester going" you could have tried "So after all that time in summer school I take it your semester is going well at Harvard "

thanks for the example.

I agree with you in that I could have played that differently. I'm not use to being aggressive with girls in messages like that.

I guess i had assumed that she would be the flirty one. That is something I will have to work on.