"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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@spitfire, I am told you were offended by one of my posts. I would had sent this message to you privately, but I was unable to do so. So, I am putting my feet to the fire and posting it publicly for all to see. Anyways, the post was in respond to your reply and I was just joking around. I believe I added an Lol to the end of the thread. Sometimes, posts from myself and I am sure from others come over differently to others who read it.

I apologize for offending you in anyway by that post and I will watch my wording within my threads more carefully so I do not offend you or any one else in my replies or threads. I come to SoSuave for advice and attempt to give advice where I think I may add some value from my experience in life. Am I perfect? No. Do my words sometimes come across unintentionally the incorrect way? I guess, in this case, it did. For that, I apologize.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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