You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by Gonzalo
Not supplicate?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Agreed. Make it seem like you've got stuff going on so that it's hard to plan when you can meet her, but when you do go out, take her for typical winter stuff like skating, skiing, snowboarding, making snow angels and snowball fights. A ****y-fun thing to do is take her x-mas shopping at a mall, as girls love to window shop, and then take her to sit on Santa's lap.Originally posted by donjuan87
I'm no expert, but I would say you shouldn't try and organize your break around her. Make sure she knows you have your own sh!t goin' on, and she needs to win your attention.
Don't come on too heavy too fast.