"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MeRrY ChRiStMaS!!

godjwood

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What are the rest of you guys doing for xmas? What should i do for a girl i'm just starting to see?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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wavejams007

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You could do the classic winter date, ice skating, or if she doesn't know how to ski, teach her to, it depends where you live. Personally, I will spend this last Christmas with my family before going off to college. My vacation days will be spent reading, chilling with friends, and just relaxing.
 

Gonzalo

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Not supplicate?
 

donjuan87

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I'm no expert, but I would say you shouldn't try and organize your break around her. Make sure she knows you have your own sh!t goin' on, and she needs to win your attention.

Don't come on too heavy too fast.
 

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJ_in_making

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merry xmas
 

Dayspring

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Originally posted by donjuan87
I'm no expert, but I would say you shouldn't try and organize your break around her. Make sure she knows you have your own sh!t goin' on, and she needs to win your attention.

Don't come on too heavy too fast.
Agreed. Make it seem like you've got stuff going on so that it's hard to plan when you can meet her, but when you do go out, take her for typical winter stuff like skating, skiing, snowboarding, making snow angels and snowball fights. A ****y-fun thing to do is take her x-mas shopping at a mall, as girls love to window shop, and then take her to sit on Santa's lap.
 

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Sitting on Santa's lap is NOT ****y. Being ****y is when you get the picture and you don't give it to her for 2 months or ie) teasing her.
 
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