"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Mention of Ex's

aussiegoat55

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I went out on a date (casual dating) and this girl briefly mentions a guy she had dated that had just called her as we got in the car and she goes on talking for a couple minutes, she said he also contacted her through email and that he was one of those guys that slept around.

The way I handled the situation was I acted uninterested and looked out the window. I really didn't want to hear her talk about the past. But it wasn't like I was the open ear AFC who listened to her complain about her jerk boyfriend, no, not like that.

So my question is how should I have reacted, what should I have said? Also, to play the game, should I mention my ex's and girls I'm currently talking to?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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KontrollerX

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You handled it fine.

If she does this again follow the same plan everytime.

If she doesn't take the hint that you don't want to hear about this crap after the second time you might as well next her for someone that won't be so disrespectful.

Perfect time to do it too since you haven't gotten very involved with her yet.
 

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Whenever a girl that you are talking to brings up the subject of her ex-boyfriend, you've got to immediately change the subject every time she does... the last thing you want is for her to think you are a "shoulder to cry on". If you learn that she had just recently gotten out of a long-term relationship it's kind of a sticky situation... you can most likely get her to want you in terms of sex/messing around... but after a relationship that lasted that long its too soon to pressure her into a relationship, it could possibly scare her off. The best thing might be to first get her in a playful mood or at least happy (and most importantly not thinking about her ex and realizing how much fun she is having without him) then explain to her that you want her to be your girl but you don't want to rush anything... tell her that you'll move at her pace and if she wants you to back off a little and slow down all she has to do is say so and you will... then tell her that you don't like playing games and if she wants to be your girl she going to have to tell you.
 

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You handled it well. i would have said

ME: "do i look like one of your girlfriends"
Her: no
Me: ok then i think you got the hint(in a serious tone but with a ****y smile)
Her: she laughs and we talk about something else.
 

Max Power

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Change the topic really quick

HB: My Ex blah blah blah
Me: So I'm thinking of becoming a psychic
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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let the ***** talk. The more she talks the more I learn about her. I like to hear them spout on.. now.. if she starts talking about how good his hard cvck felt in her mouth and **** than you need to move on.... but don't be afraid of competition. I ean I won't spend the entire night letting her talk on... but the more you know about her, the better decision you can make on where to take it.

If she tells you "yeah, I met him, and things were so magical at first, the first night, on our first date, we made love....."

that tells you that anything less than her fvcking your brains out tonight she needs to go. obviously she puts out on the first date... if she doesn't like you enough to put out in the first date....
 
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