Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Chamber36

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I told my mom the story about how I walked out of a club and told this girl she looked like a taxi driver.

her reaction: NO WONDER YOU DON'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!! I never want you to say that to a girl again!!


(manipulation/oppression/mental slavery anyone??)


I got really pissed off with her reaction and told her how
1. Being nice hasn't gotten me anywhere.
2. How women are excused for comments stated when drunk.
3. If i told a guy he looked like a taxi driver it would all be cool.

This mean anything to you guys?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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U AW in front of ur mom and that girl, because I think that girl didn't come with u. Confidence is a light burning within you, not I'm better that you attitude. The latter is false and fake.
 

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Get your differences with your mum sorted out, or even better don't ask her opinion on dating. Of course your mum still sees her baby boy in you, and thus her advice might not make you a strong man.
 

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and if your moms found out how we treat our women, she might even kick you out of the family.
 

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Y'all got the game wrong. There is nothing charming or attractive about putting people down nor do I believe in negging. Negging is for weak men. You are intimidated by her looks so you have to knock her down. Its a weak tactic employed by weak men and fell for by insecure women. Childish.

When speaking of nice guys we are speaking of overly nice guys who spend more resources than they should on women who don't want them.
You don't have to become an ass to attract women.. just value yourself.

I value myself enough that I don't have to put women down to attract them.
Never have and never had a problem getting laid.
You should value yourself more too. Stop listening to these poser playboys trying to make a quick flip off your lack of social skills

Cola
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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cola said:
Negging is for weak men. You are intimidated by her looks so you have to knock her down. Its a weak tactic employed by weak men and fell for by insecure women.

Cola
everyone has their own way how to attract women. one way my not work for another.
 

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cola said:
Y'all got the game wrong. There is nothing charming or attractive about putting people down nor do I believe in negging. Negging is for weak men. You are intimidated by her looks so you have to knock her down. Its a weak tactic employed by weak men and fell for by insecure women. Childish.

When speaking of nice guys we are speaking of overly nice guys who spend more resources than they should on women who don't want them.
You don't have to become an ass to attract women.. just value yourself.

I value myself enough that I don't have to put women down to attract them.
Never have and never had a problem getting laid.
You should value yourself more too. Stop listening to these poser playboys trying to make a quick flip off your lack of social skills

Cola
What this guy said. You talk to your mom differently than you talk to some ho. So if you tell your mom you're fvcking putting down women what did you think she was going to do? High five you?

Maybe next time you'll tell her when you fvcked some skank in a one night stand and expect her to be proud of you. These are things you do not talk about with your mother..
 

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Being nice doesn't work but telling a girl she looks like a taxi driver does?

It didn't did it? Your mom is right dude. Calling girls that will probably mean you won't get a girlfriend any time soon. You're doing it wrong.
 

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Did you tell the girl she looked like a taxi driver with a smile on your face?:rockon:

Seriously though why are you telling your mother anything? Do you tell her which position you like best or what type of sex you prefer?

The problem is that many guys don't get the art of negging and what it's used for ....


First off most of time when you neg a girl it should be done in such a way so she's knows you're not being serious or at least she thinks you're not being serious. (Now whether you are or not is your little secret). It's supposed to be playful and suggest hey I get that you (girl) aren't perfect and I'm not going to pedestal you.

You have get a bit nastier with extremely hot women because they throw up massive walls but it still shouldn't lose the jovial element.

As for the comment itself it sucks. How does a girl ever look like a taxi driver? I don't quite get it so I'm sure it just wasn't funny. Noweif you said she smells like a taxi driver you might have been onto something ... even still

if you elect to neg make comments on something a woman can control like her clothes, and avoid negs about her looks, her weight as these almost always turn out extremely poor.


For example a girl I know wore a t -shirt with shiny rhinestones. The T shirt was a standard gray t-shirt nothing special no ornate designs so I teased/negged her by saying, "Now xxxx, where you getting busy with a bedazzler last night?" She laughed and started joking with me say yeah I stayed up late making this shirt.
 

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I told my ex on our second date that she smells like a rubber tire. She was shocked but then signed all her notes and cards "Your rubber tire".

Only for the super-hotties. Average-looking and insecure girls will generally react badly to negs. And yes, it must be done in a kind of playful or tongue-in-cheek way so she is left wondering if you're being serious or not. Negs are only to be used to bring a hot girl down to earth off of her imaginary princess pedastal. They should never be tossed around indiscriminately. A lot of newbies make the mistake of thinking, "She's female. I need to neg her." Negatory on that idea, friend. A neg is a tool to be used for a specific purpose, and used with just the right amount of force as the situation dictates.

OP, did this girl have a meter at the foot of her bed?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i got a new sharp beam of knowledge from cola, 411, and atom smasher; feeling a bit guilty b/c i did jokefully neg some hos about their weights few days ago, although i fully stated that i was just kidding. but i am sure it's best to not do that kind of negging. this makes me remind of one of the best neg lines that i heard before; "hey you are sexy but not that sexy"
 

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The_411 said:
Did you tell the girl she looked like a taxi driver with a smile on your face?:rockon:

Seriously though why are you telling your mother anything? Do you tell her which position you like best or what type of sex you prefer?

The problem is that many guys don't get the art of negging and what it's used for ....


First off most of time when you neg a girl it should be done in such a way so she's knows you're not being serious or at least she thinks you're not being serious. (Now whether you are or not is your little secret). It's supposed to be playful and suggest hey I get that you (girl) aren't perfect and I'm not going to pedestal you.

You have get a bit nastier with extremely hot women because they throw up massive walls but it still shouldn't lose the jovial element.

As for the comment itself it sucks. How does a girl ever look like a taxi driver? I don't quite get it so I'm sure it just wasn't funny. Noweif you said she smells like a taxi driver you might have been onto something ... even still

if you elect to neg make comments on something a woman can control like her clothes, and avoid negs about her looks, her weight as these almost always turn out extremely poor.



For example a girl I know wore a t -shirt with shiny rhinestones. The T shirt was a standard gray t-shirt nothing special no ornate designs so I teased/negged her by saying, "Now xxxx, where you getting busy with a bedazzler last night?" She laughed and started joking with me say yeah I stayed up late making this shirt.
I am a pretty funny guy in real life and I would always throw negs in, in somewhat of a funny way.

like the girl that i chased for a very long time, while she was very beautiful, she had an abnormally big head lol, so i would always call her waterhead. even now when I see her that's what i call her. very playful, very lighthearted, yet at the same time, letting her know that in fact, her head is fat as fvck, which i assure you it is.

like my wife and i, even now, and make no mistake i'm head over heels in love with my wife. But my 11 year old sister can (seriously) cook better than she can. bless her heart she tries, and it's gotten better, especially ythe things i eat on a regular basis, but if we are having company she better not step foot inn the kitichen. So right after our honeymoon i have been in the grilling mood and bought a new fancy grill, and i've been grilling some of everything. so she decides she was going to try to grill some chicken aboubt 2 weeks ago and i say "oh lord let me go ahead and call the fire department now, just so they can get a head start", she gives me a playful hit, but she's laughing.

That is how a neg hit is to be used. You see a girl out you start talking to her, get her laughing first, get her lossend up, find something about her that you can make her realize she is human. I have found it better you talk to a woman first, and let them give you ammunition then if you go towards her and start to just try to come up with something. you might talk to a woman for 10 minutes and she tells you a story about how she was too drunk to drive home the night before or last week, now you can call her a wino all night long and crack jokes about AA, and she can't do anything but laugh. That IMHO is how a neg hit is used.

I mean think about it. How would you like it if some chick came up to you and said "hey, i'm jane, nice to meet you.....you are black as hell you know that" rotfl i would laugh actually but you get the point, that's not very smooth. how would you feel if a girl came up to you and just said something that actually HURT lol. what if you are trying to lose weight and the chick said "damn those jeans really aren't fitting are they"

in other words, there is a fine line between negging and hurting a womans' feelings. women or not, they are human and have up's and downs and self esteem and all that good jazz. You don't want to hurt their feelings but at the same time, you don't want them to think that they are above you in anyway.
 

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well I just walked out of the club to find my friends and she was facing the club, wearing a little black blazer and a little scarf, and she had her hair pulled tight into a ponytail. She was dressed up like she was at work, but she was standing across the club, so I added that up into a female taxi driver.

I just said "you...."
She goes: "what?!"
me: "you look like a taxi driver."
Now in an attempt to even that out I said "but your friend looks elegant in her poncho."
Then her friend said: "oh no...."

But it was still funny imo.

Before that happened, I had pissed off a girl inside the club. That was pretty hilarious. We were walking downstairs to get our jackets, she was in front of me, and I said: "bet you i'll get my jacket faster than you." She was like: "no your not."

So then when I got downstairs I searched my pocket for the number, and quickly raised it over the girls' heads. And the jacket lady took it in 0.5 seconds. I was pretty amazed. Anyway I was drunk, so I thought the girl in front of me had gotten her jacket already.

But then suddenly she was to my side and she said: "I'll count to 3."
She wasn't even talking to me.

But I interjected with: "I can count to 3 faster!"
She was like: "did you get an award for that?"

And I started thinking about school and stuff, then I basically forgot about her and drank my beer.

Before I knew it the girl from behind the coat rack came up in my face and started telling me to go upstairs. Now I didn't know what I had done wrong.... So I just said: "Hold on, I'm waiting for my friend."

She got really pissed off right and I remained calm as ****, I just asked her what I did wrong. So then she said I was bother the girl. I said hell no the girl's bothering me.

So she told me a 1 minute story which I ignored and then I told her I had to drink my beer. It was 3/4 full.

Eventually she pushed me, which could have seriously injured me because there's metal rims on the stairs which I was standign next to./

There was a girl there looking at me in shock, and I politely let her pass, because she was cute. Anyway then my friend was like: "Upstairs you!!!" And I just walked up.

I did get a little pissed off when she pushed me, but I just laughed it off.

Then I saw my friend upstairs and wee laughed and went outside.
That's where I saw the taxi driver girl.



FYI

I saw 1 friend and he told me that he called a girl fat. I slapped him in the belly for that.

The next day the other friend told us he did the same.
We all had a laugh. That was a fun night.
 

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So now you guys know how it all happened.

I was in a good mood. The girls in the club picked a fight with me and got me a little aggressive. Then outside I just stopped giving a F.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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