"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mental Masturbation: EMBARRASSING?

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JediMasterdebaiter

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After reading numerous posts on here I thought of a few very thought provoking questions...



Would you be embarrassed if the girl(s) of your DJ dreams found out about this site, read what you wrote, knew it was you, and saw the way most of you carry on like little effeminate talk show guests about them??? Would you be a MAN in their eyes, or would they still want you as THEIR man?? Think about that.

Discuss.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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gonnamakeit

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No, your right I have thought of it a bit I think I have outgrown this site. I can help myself from here on out.
 
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prairiedog24

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I don't see the issue. You're either here to learn or to teach. Both are worthy causes.
 
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piranha45

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I've got no shame, all 600-something posts on this site.

You can't keep the girl of your dreams exclusive to you, anyway, if you can't retain the fundamental power of walking away from her.

ANYTHING you find enjoyable can be construed to be "mental masturbation". So the term and your argument are moot.
 
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horaholic

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I have nothing to be ashamed of. Of course, part of the reason why is that I dont come on here as a know it all, and condescend everyone, so I can think I'm cool in my own head. But hey, thats just me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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