"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mens vs Womens Needs

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
If this were true AFC's wouldn't be frustrated nor chumps. Plus more men would get married not because they are expected to, they would get married because it would be emotionally benificial to them.
Well is can be beneficial to them.
Francisco d'Anconia said:
Because its superficial. There are tons of women out there at least as attractive if not more, big whoop. What differentiates them is their mindset, their demeanor, how they treat men. That deserves more praise than mere looks.
The girl turned me on because of how she moved on the dance floor, her looks were not extra ordinary.
Obsidian said:
The problem with gratifying a woman's need for acceptance despite not getting anything in return is that it's like giving a $100 to a bum. It doesn't make the world a happy utopia. All it does is make the bum happy for a few minutes until he can go leech off someone else without giving anything back in return. You will never satisfy a woman's full need for acceptance merely by being nice to her in your salsa class. She wants the whole world to adore her, not just you.
If a woman wants my acceptance, she has to treat me with respect.
What do you mean not getting anything in return? When a girl feels good about herself, she will open up to a man. In doing so the man will receive all of the woman, she will surrender to him. Would that not be a great benefit for a man? I think it would.
I don’t understand where all this pessimism is coming from with regards to meeting girls needs? I though being Don Juan is about being good with women and satisfying them? How else is she going to surrender to men? I don’t understand all this negativity towards women on this site. Is anyone getting laid here or just propegating what they read?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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regular_guy said:
Well is can be beneficial to them.
Examples?
regular_guy said:
The girl turned me on because of how she moved on the dance floor, her looks were not extra ordinary.
Did you treat her like a princess?
regular_guy said:
What do you mean not getting anything in return? When a girl feels good about herself, she will open up to a man. In doing so the man will receive all of the woman, she will surrender to him. Would that not be a great benefit for a man? I think it would.
Absolutely it would, so would doing away with Federal income tax but that ain't gonna happen either.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Examples?
Well the benefit would be to have your open/loving woman, give herself to you. Take care of you, love you, etc.

Francisco d'Anconia said:
Did you treat her like a princess?

Absolutely it would, so would doing away with Federal income tax but that ain't gonna happen either.
Well I took extra care to make sure she is led safely by my lead. Sounds like you have never met a quality woman to meet your needs.
 

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regular_guy said:
Well the benefit would be to have your open/loving woman, give herself to you. Take care of you, love you, etc.
I get that now without the legalities of marriage. You'd think more guys could do the same in a relationship without getting married.
regular_guy said:
Well I took extra care to make sure she is led safely by my lead. Sounds like you have never met a quality woman to meet your needs.
Quality women? Plenty. Those that meet my needs? Not in my immediate geography.
 
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