"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Excerpt: "The action-mystery series Tracker is more than a little old school. While the most recent Season 2 finale ended on a cliffhanger, teasing one of the series' long-running mysteries, the popularity of the show isn't just connected to big prestige TV mystery boxes. Instead, one of the reasons we love settling into Tracker episodes is that a vast majority of those adventures are self-contained. And, most crucially, the titular protagonist of the series — Colter Shaw (Justin Hartley) — is a unique blend of a modern man, with a healthy dose of TV heroes of old.

"One of the things I really love about Colter and the way we've built him is that he doesn't apologize for his masculinity," Justin Hartley tells Men's Journal. "I think that's what people are looking for. You're asking yourself, 'What kind of people do I want to hang out with?' And particularly: 'What kind of male friends do I have in my life that I really value?' I think we've crafted a character that is so emotionally evolved, and he really does want to get to the root of why people do things...

"One of the things I really love about Colter and the way we've built him is that he doesn't apologize for his masculinity," Justin Hartley tells Men's Journal. "I think that's what people are looking for. You're asking yourself, 'What kind of people do I want to hang out with?' And particularly: 'What kind of male friends do I have in my life that I really value?' I think we've crafted a character that is so emotionally evolved, and he really does want to get to the root of why people do things..." "The facts are that [executive producer] Ken Olin and I set out to do a show that was in fact a throwback," Hartley explains. "We wanted a new spin on a procedural, meaning our character would evolve over time. He would not just remain the same exact person every single week. We were hopeful people would like it. People ended up loving it. I think there's a huge appetite for this kind of show."

Hartley is also acutely aware of another popular action protagonist who comes from popular thriller novels, Reacher. And he certainly doesn't mind if people put Tracker in a similar category. "I'm not sure we're in a Renaissance period for these kinds of shows, but I think the proof is in the pudding. I mean, look at Reacher. It's more serialized, but it's the same kind of thing," Hartley says. "People like a hero. They like to root for a hero, so I think there's a huge audience for that beyond just Tracker."

He's got a point. And the nice thing about Colter in Tracker is he's clearly a hardcore man's man, without being a jerk about it. "He's a man through and through. And that doesn't mean you have to be the loudest person in the room and know every single f*cking thing and throw tables around and scream and shout and yell and smoke and drink," Hartley explains. "He's all about talking with people. Reading people. Understanding them. He's an all-encompassing man. He's not just a guy. He's a man..."



While I can't describe Tracker as a great series (One has to wonder how much more engaging things would've turned out, had it been adapted for streaming or cable + Stuck more closely to Deaver's source novels https://www.google.com/amp/s/thrillingdetective.com/2019/05/30/colter-shaw/amp/ ), it's refreshing to see this sort of programming, after a decade of Hollywood churning out forgettable Girl Boss products who's depiction of men was less fleshed out than Jamie King at 17, and which-ironically enough-weren't especially appealing to the women they were peddled to
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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