"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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https://www.mensjournal.com/entertainment/justin-hartley-tracker-interview-masculinity

Excerpt: "The action-mystery series Tracker is more than a little old school. While the most recent Season 2 finale ended on a cliffhanger, teasing one of the series' long-running mysteries, the popularity of the show isn't just connected to big prestige TV mystery boxes. Instead, one of the reasons we love settling into Tracker episodes is that a vast majority of those adventures are self-contained. And, most crucially, the titular protagonist of the series — Colter Shaw (Justin Hartley) — is a unique blend of a modern man, with a healthy dose of TV heroes of old.

"One of the things I really love about Colter and the way we've built him is that he doesn't apologize for his masculinity," Justin Hartley tells Men's Journal. "I think that's what people are looking for. You're asking yourself, 'What kind of people do I want to hang out with?' And particularly: 'What kind of male friends do I have in my life that I really value?' I think we've crafted a character that is so emotionally evolved, and he really does want to get to the root of why people do things...

"One of the things I really love about Colter and the way we've built him is that he doesn't apologize for his masculinity," Justin Hartley tells Men's Journal. "I think that's what people are looking for. You're asking yourself, 'What kind of people do I want to hang out with?' And particularly: 'What kind of male friends do I have in my life that I really value?' I think we've crafted a character that is so emotionally evolved, and he really does want to get to the root of why people do things..." "The facts are that [executive producer] Ken Olin and I set out to do a show that was in fact a throwback," Hartley explains. "We wanted a new spin on a procedural, meaning our character would evolve over time. He would not just remain the same exact person every single week. We were hopeful people would like it. People ended up loving it. I think there's a huge appetite for this kind of show."

Hartley is also acutely aware of another popular action protagonist who comes from popular thriller novels, Reacher. And he certainly doesn't mind if people put Tracker in a similar category. "I'm not sure we're in a Renaissance period for these kinds of shows, but I think the proof is in the pudding. I mean, look at Reacher. It's more serialized, but it's the same kind of thing," Hartley says. "People like a hero. They like to root for a hero, so I think there's a huge audience for that beyond just Tracker."

He's got a point. And the nice thing about Colter in Tracker is he's clearly a hardcore man's man, without being a jerk about it. "He's a man through and through. And that doesn't mean you have to be the loudest person in the room and know every single f*cking thing and throw tables around and scream and shout and yell and smoke and drink," Hartley explains. "He's all about talking with people. Reading people. Understanding them. He's an all-encompassing man. He's not just a guy. He's a man..."



While I can't describe Tracker as a great series (One has to wonder how much more engaging things would've turned out, had it been adapted for streaming or cable + Stuck more closely to Deaver's source novels https://www.google.com/amp/s/thrillingdetective.com/2019/05/30/colter-shaw/amp/ ), it's refreshing to see this sort of programming, after a decade of Hollywood churning out forgettable Girl Boss products who's depiction of men was less fleshed out than Jamie King at 17, and which-ironically enough-weren't especially appealing to the women they were peddled to
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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