A recent survey by Parenting Magazine found that “choreplay,” i.e., husbands pitching in around the house, was what put 15 percent of moms in the mood.
Ooh, a whopping 15%! Would this mean the other 85% were turned off?
You know, I've been married for 11.5 years now and in that time, on occasion, I've performed many domestic duties for no other reason than it was a necessity. I have changed my daughter's diaper, I have cleaned toilets, I've done laundry, I've vacuumed, etc. However, in 11.5 years never have I had my wife be consumed with an uncontrollable lust to give me a spontaneous blow job or pin me down on the kitchen floor, tear my pants of and ride me to glory after my having put away the dishes. Neither have I ever heard the words, "damn, you looked so hot ironing my blouse yesterday, ƒuck me, ƒuck ME!!" proceed from her lips while in the throes of passion.
And in the interest of being fair, I've never been turned on, nor do I consider it foreplay with my wife, when she's the one doing the chores. I have been greatly turned on by the sight of her in lingerie; sweat pants, a t-shirt and a toilet bowl brush in hand? Not so much.
However some of the most memorable sexual experiences I've had with her (and other women in my sexual past) have come after I've done something particularly masculine or I performed well doing something that benefitted me with a lot of social proof. For instance, my wife seems to like sex after I've had a good heavy lifting day at the gym. She also seems very amorous after social engagements I bring her along to for my work. Once, when we were dating, I brought her along to a Tae Kwon Do tournament I was in and I won the sparring trophy for my belt division that day by a (admittedly lucky) kick to my last opponents head. We ƒucked like rabbits that night, let me tell you. And likewise, I've ƒucked 40+ women in my 20's most of whom were hook ups after a gig my band was playing in Hollywood (and sometimes right before a show).
So the moral of this story is, as always, base your assessments on a woman's behavior - NEVER on her words. Any woman telling you you look hot in an apron or she loves how you pee sitting down is selling you something. It's up to you to determine what she's selling.