"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Men listening skills
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The Gambler
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Huh? What did you say?carrot said:
Sorry... that was the obvious hack gag.
When someone is doing lots of talking, it is hard to listen to every word. I try to catch the big points of what they are saying, and will use these points some time in the future to let them know I heard what they were saying.... Sometimes days or weeks later... Women LOVE that.
Also remember that when most women talk, they want you to listen but not to try and solve all their problems... So really, you just need to let them know you're listening by repeating a few key points... And you really don't have to do much more than that to be a successful communicator in her eyes.
Women have different personality types and needs, but this is the basic info to start with. Figure out who she is and what she is looking for when it comes to communication.... then run with it.
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Men and women communicate in different ways. What women really mean is that men have poor women style listening skills.carrot said:
The secret is nod and act interested for most of the bull**** and only worry about the important bits.
taiyuu_otoko
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Yes, it's biological.carrot said:
Source: The Red Queen, and Why Men Don't Listen, and Women Can't Read Maps.
Long story short: Men are hunters, requires little communication. Women are gatherers, and chit chatted all day about all kinds of shyte while listening for evidence of their younguns in trouble.
Improve your skills?
Easy: Dale Carnegie: How To Win Friends and Influence People
Long story short: Focus on what the other person is saying, ask leading questions to get them to offer more information. Forget about wowing them with your own story. Nobody really cares.