penkitten
Master Don Juan
exactly what you do you call goo goo talk??
there was no goo goo talk
there was no goo goo talk
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No sh*t.Originally posted by penkitten
exactly what you do you call goo goo talk??
there was no goo goo talk
snookie what?Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
No sh*t.
Someone must have pissed in his corn flakes or something, my wittle snookie-wookums.
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Actually, when I was cooking my steak tonight it was suppose to be medium rare but came out, closer to well done.Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Someone must have pissed in his corn flakes or something
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And then to top off your night, here I am telling penkitten that I love her more than all the chocolate bunnies. I think you should just call it a night and hope tomorrow works out better for you.Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Actually, when I was cooking my steak tonight it was suppose to be medium rare but came out, closer to well done.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i almost cant believe it ....Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
, here I am telling penkitten that I love her more than all the chocolate bunnies. .
El Karate ExplosionsoOriginally posted by penkitten
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actually my whole point was .. there are some chicks who arent gold diggersOriginally posted by Wyldfire
pen and Gio...I'm all for you two flirting and being as lovey-dovey as you want. However, those complaining do have a point about you doing it in this section. You should at least try to save it for anything else. Ya know?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Here we go.......Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Your call Wyld... whattaya think?
I know it wasn't YOU...it was Gio. But you and I both know that by me saying that it's likely to turn this thread from you two flirting to Gio and I arguing and me ultimately getting him so pi$$ed off he stomps off again.Originally posted by penkitten
actually my whole point was .. there are some chicks who arent gold diggers
I think you really wanna stab me in the head with your fork...or you will after you read my last post!Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
OR... I could do what I thought about doing when I first saw this thread and locking it with a note telling the original poster to do a search for the other ten million times this topic has been brought up.
Your call Wyld... whattaya think?
90% of current topics on this forum aren't new either..... You can't close a thread coz Wylds giving you a little stick, like what else is new!!Gio wrote:
OR... I could do what I thought about doing when I first saw this thread and locking it with a note telling the original poster to do a search for the other ten million times this topic has been brought up.
I didn't think you were a gold digger.Originally posted by Wyldfire
"gold diggers" Sure, there are some...but most of the women I know aren't. I'm not
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Now just because I happened to be with ONE guy who was incarcerated doesn't mean I typically go for guys in prison. I only ended up with that one guy because I met his kids first and really grew to love them. They're the ones that got me to go meet him the first time...and believe me, I resisted. I was actually shocked to discover such a gem of a man in prison. He was definitely what I would call a "needle in a haystack". I'd never get involved with another guy in the pen, though. It's honestly really not my style...believe it or not.Originally posted by Helter Skelter
I didn't think you were a gold digger.
But, I'm currently serving time in Attica. Am I making you wet?
I'm giving him a little what? Gio and I don't get along. Never have, never will. The only "stick" action that would ever transpire between Gio and I would be considered a felony assault.Originally posted by MacDiddy
90% of current topics on this forum aren't new either..... You can't close a thread coz Wylds giving you a little stick, like what else is new!!
@ TilTheEndOfTimeOriginally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Men generally come here to grow, women come there to be manipulative gold-diggers
THAT is some funny sh*t.Originally posted by Helter Skelter
I didn't think you were a gold digger.
But, I'm currently serving time in Attica. Am I making you wet?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.