"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Men don't really need "love" (it's bullsh!t), but rather to be RESPECTED!

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To sum it up:

Men don't need the so-called bullsh~t named "love". It's a MEANINGLESS concept anyway.

But rather, what men truly need is to be RESPECTED.

Let me elaborate.

When do you feel most happy with a woman?

Of course, this is very easy to answer: When she obeys you, acts obedient, cooks you good meals, fvcks your brains out, ... etc ... Anyone can says this.

But, WHEN does a woman do all of these willingly?

When she LOVES you the most, you might answer. However, let me dig a little deeper:

But when does she actually love you the most???

Can you answer this? Have you ever really thought this far?

The answer is: She can only love you the most when she's already RESPECTED you the most.

So, gentlemen of SS, it's not "love" that we need, but rather RESPECT. It's the respect from our women that mean the world to us, not love.

As long as the women still treats you with respect, and looks up to you, your relationship is fine.

But, the moment she stops respecting you, or stops looking up to you, your relationship is in jeopardy and has a 99,9% risk of going straight to sh!t, no matter how sweet and caring and loving she treated you in the past.

Too long, didn't read version:

1. Love is dog sh!t and means nothing in a relationship with women, only RESPECT matters!

2. Respect is the highest form of love a woman can offer you. In other words: When a woman loves you, she actually respects you without even knowing it.

3. Fvck love. It's ALL ABOUT RESPECT!
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well done, OP.

Fvck love. It’s all about respect! Respect and a woman’s interest level are linked. I would add that her respect has an element of fear in it. Afraid to lose you…
Thanks bro, I learned this the hardest way possible.

Love is meaningless when it comes to building & maintaining a healthy & functioning relationship with a woman. Because we don't really need it. The only thing we need from a woman, especially when she's in a relationship with us, is RESPECT.
 

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I've been saying this for a long time already. Respect is one of the most essential basis for relationships.
 

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Women cannot love a man that they can't respect. And women also can't love men who don't respect themselves. This is why simps, betas and other assorted doormat men get no female attention.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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‘Tis true. Respect is the bedrock upon which her love rests. Take away the respect and love comes crashing down.

I have always believed that contrary to popular opinion, it is men who are truly capable of authentic, sacrificial love, and that most women are not. That’s what gets us into so much trouble and emotional turmoil.
 

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Women are more resilient I think (generally speaking) and while initially extremely hurt and sad when a relationship ends, are able bounce back and find love again. This has been true for me and women I associate with.
Women have no choice but to be resilient on this because of biological imperative. Women cannot survive in nature without men.

This means that if rival clan comes in and conquers an enemy village, the women will quickly forget their slain husband and procreate with the new men. Her survival depends on it.
 

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Man..... i havent loved a woman after my first 1-2 girlfriends...... i´d go as far as i just relearned to love when my kid was born.

I doubt very much that i ever will love a woman again. But then, i dont need to love a woman. I´am totally fine with her "keeping my belly full and my balls empty" as Kevin Samuels put it. RIP
 

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I know it's how men are wired, even my own fiancé (we are getting married next month). I am not so delusional to believe otherwise.

I can only hope my fiancé is one of these men. I TRUST him and have no reason to believe he would lie or cheat.
Men, look at the contradiction. This is incredible.

If you know men want to fvck other girls, why do you require him to be sexually monogamous? Setting yourself up for disappointment…
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I don't "require" him to do anything. He's a grown man, it HIS choice.
Wrong. You said a man has to be upfront about his intention to not be sexually monogamous. This is so you can screen him out for a man that will lie to you by “choosing” monogamy. That is a false choice.

If you guys want to disagree with me, that's fine, I only ask that you read my posts in their entirety. I have already explained my position on this but to repeat there are men, despite their desire to have sex with a variety, choose monogamy.
They “choose” and fail.

Men, how many times must women be cheated on before they wise up and stop this faux requirement from their men?
 

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And I take that information and make MY decision whether to move forward with him or leave.

Information is power and I use to my advantage regardless of whether it means staying or leaving.
Translation: If he does not commit to being sexually monogamous, I will move on to another sucker who will.

Men, straight from the woman’s mouth. It cannot be anymore clear.
 

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You get a girl to like you, hint all along at a relationship, then when she falls for you, you lay the giant dog turd on her “I need to be with other women if I’m going to be in a relationship with you”

If she’s fallen hard enough then she’ll agree to it. With much resentment.
This is a keen observation, bro.

This is why men lie about being sexually monogamous. Do we really think a modern woman can truly swallow permitting her man to fvck other girls? She may play along with it for a while, then will just divorce him anyway.
 

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Finally, we agree! Although in my eyes he's not a "sucker," only a man who is on my wavelength, shares my values, possesses integrity and believes in staying TRUE to the commitments and convictions HE willingly makes.
He’s likely a sucker. Or he’s cheating on you as we speak. One or the other.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I just can't though. Call me idealistic, even stupid if you want, I have got to have faith and trust otherwise I might as well forget ever having a committed relationship or getting married.
No one said you cannot have a commitment relationship. All we ever said is that male commitment and female commitment are not the same.

Male commitment is vowing to protect and provision for a woman. Men express their love for women this way; not via sexual monogamy.

Female commitment is vowing not to fvck other men.

Despite understanding that men can fvck other women, you still are searching for men to conform to the female standard of commitment. That’s just not how it works.
 

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It baffles me how many females I’ve met, known, and witnessed who claim they been cheated on in every relationship they’ve ever had. They’ll complain about it. Yet then they still “require” monogamy from the next guy!

Do they ever reflect on how insane that sounds?
 

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I think that alone is reason enough for a man to stay monogamous with a woman he cares about, respects and loves.
Again, this is trying to make men conform to your female standard.

My overarching point was that I’ve met women whom 5/5 ex boyfriends have cheated. The question she proposes - “Why can’t I find a man that will be faithful to me?” is actually insane.

To us men- we accept 100% as a failure of tactics and/or reality. The correct question is “Is sexual monogamy something I should even ask of men?”

I’m mostly certain that women are incapable of introspection. They’ll never ask that kind of question.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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