"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, good book or bad book???

Guitar_Whizz

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Hey guys, I was curious, what is your opinion of the 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' books? I've read the original, plus another in the series called 'Mars and Venus on a date'.

In my opinion there was some reasonable advice, such as women like it when a man listens to her, but hate it when he tries to give her advice or to 'fix' her problem. But overall I think there are far too many bits of info to remember, and I think if you're with a girl and trying to think of all those bits of advice, it'll just mess your head up and you won't be able to concentrate on having a good time with the girl.

So what are your opinions of this book? AFC or ok???
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you want to read it, read it. What is this business with books being AFC? Wtf?

Go to your local bookstore and skim the book. Just remember a few things: 1) every book written has someone's opinions and perspective... don't take it as a fact. 2) Everything contains bull**** in one form or another.

And forget about all that crap about dating and so forth. Be yourself. Don't worry about it. Listen to your insticts after all YOU'RE A MAN GODDAMNIT. Now grab your instincts.

If it doesnt work out, it either wasn't meant to be or yourself is really not up to par. Work on it.
 

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In the DJ Bible, Pook describes MenMars/WomenVenus book as being very helpful *IF* you are in a serious relationship where the woman is interested in you but is useless if you're not because if a woman doesn't like you "that much" whatever you do will not make much sense to her as she doesn't feel obligated to reciprocate as you wish.

So overall is it useful? It helps being aware of how women think but it won't increase any attraction of how a woman thinks of you.
 

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This is a book written for married couples.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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