I was at a bookstore the other day to pickup a gift. As I was walking in, I had an epiphany this must be how girls view us through OLD’s and other media. As an analogy and through her eyes:
Overwhelmingly she sees tons of options and selections everywhere. Books piled so high and toppling over each other.
She’s narrowed down the scope (needs) and approached the appropriate aisle (romance).
Still there’s thousands of volumes to choose from. Many only get a brief glance, others ignored but one book cover catches her attention (attraction) She looks at the back to get a brief synapses of the contents (profile). Its good but she puts it down because she’s looking for something better.
Another more visionally enticing one comes into the fold. This time she opens it and starts reading the prologue to get more insight on this interesting person. It’s good but the story line and characteristics (value) is not what she envisioned so she puts it down.
The search continues and this time she really likes one that checks off all the boxes. She proceeds to the checkout with growing anticipation. After settling in, she opens the book and starts reading the first few chapters. This man of mystery is so inviting, so mind blowing, she’s starting to feel a little tingle in her lady bits. She just can’t put it down.
Then… she reaches Chapter 4 “ The Bond Girl!
WTF just happened! Why is this man who appeared so masculine, rugged and alpha is suddenly chasing, desperate and weak over this women (frame). Aghast she throws the book down in disgust. She goes back to the store for a refund, demanding this is not what she paid for. In response the owners toss you in the discount bin in the DIY section.
Perhaps this is an over simplification but at what stage do you fail? Back in the day, I was good at the cover and prologue but too many times I F’d up a chapter and couldn’t get her to the finish line.
After years of improvement, I’ve done better but also acceptance that not every girl is going to pick you from the pile.
Overwhelmingly she sees tons of options and selections everywhere. Books piled so high and toppling over each other.
She’s narrowed down the scope (needs) and approached the appropriate aisle (romance).
Still there’s thousands of volumes to choose from. Many only get a brief glance, others ignored but one book cover catches her attention (attraction) She looks at the back to get a brief synapses of the contents (profile). Its good but she puts it down because she’s looking for something better.
Another more visionally enticing one comes into the fold. This time she opens it and starts reading the prologue to get more insight on this interesting person. It’s good but the story line and characteristics (value) is not what she envisioned so she puts it down.
The search continues and this time she really likes one that checks off all the boxes. She proceeds to the checkout with growing anticipation. After settling in, she opens the book and starts reading the first few chapters. This man of mystery is so inviting, so mind blowing, she’s starting to feel a little tingle in her lady bits. She just can’t put it down.
Then… she reaches Chapter 4 “ The Bond Girl!
WTF just happened! Why is this man who appeared so masculine, rugged and alpha is suddenly chasing, desperate and weak over this women (frame). Aghast she throws the book down in disgust. She goes back to the store for a refund, demanding this is not what she paid for. In response the owners toss you in the discount bin in the DIY section.
Perhaps this is an over simplification but at what stage do you fail? Back in the day, I was good at the cover and prologue but too many times I F’d up a chapter and couldn’t get her to the finish line.
After years of improvement, I’ve done better but also acceptance that not every girl is going to pick you from the pile.
