"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Memory thoughts: Leaving an impression that lasts a lifetime

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Hearing a song, smelling a scent....


I had an ex from 1993 that ramped up exposing me to so many musical genres(he had the means to buy lots of cds)

He went through so many colognes-pretty much covering all the nuanced scent 'flavours'(I don't know how to describe the
nuances in storebought scents)

There's that point in a relationship that approaches where you're about to break up(he wanted children; I did not....even way back then)

He was intelligent, a piercing and confident intelligence with a soulweary grasp on the importance of time.

I'm just posting this publicly as a nod and a curtsy to his genius in flooding my smell and auditory senses to the point I couldn't not think of him and remember him on an almost daily basis even 27 years later as a style of music comes on or a man walks by with the note of sandalwood or some other scent signature.


"The one that got away".....

I wonder if anyone has experienced a dying relationship where your partner was clever enough to leave a positive, on purpose, senses-based memory-triggering-for-a-lifetime impression on you?
Pure genius. Much respect to him, always.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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