"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Member status should be changed

silverwex

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Right, so AFC's come here for the first time register and begin to post and ask questions. Thats fine.

What should be changed tho, is the DJ staus below member names.

For instance, an AFC joins the site and is TOTALLY out of touch with what to do with/around girls - and sosuave give him a status of 'DJ' staright away?

I mean even 'DJs' with 400/500 posts still are a bit AFC! Including myself!

Heres what the rating system should be like:

0 - 350 Posts = Recovering AFC (RAFC)

351 - 600 Posts = Reformed AFC (RAFC2)

600 - 800 Posts = DJ

800+ = Master/Senior DJ

Or maybe there should be some online test asking whether u know the stuff sosuave teaches or if you put it into practice...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Wouldn't it be the opposite in some cases? After all, the more you're on here, the less time you're spending out in the field practicing... some of the top DJ's might only have 100-200 posts... :p
 

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Excellent point. I've barely posted at all since I finally got good.
 

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Bishop - Thats actually a good point. Didnt think of it from that situation...

Suppose it can work either way.
 

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A better idea would be to let our peers decide for us with votes, based on the quality or lack thereof of what we actually say. Much in the same way a thread here can be currently rated.

AT least that way new visitors to the forums can easily identify those who know what they're talking about and those who just constantly spout out canned, generic advice, or worse, just bad advice all together. It might also let people that are here to help know if they are actually helping.

I suppose it can be abused in hard feelings, or sometimes we post things we come to regret later on...but that's life. If it ain't real, what's the point?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sisko

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No it is a bad idea.

The old forum had just a DJ and a Master DJ status.

That was better because a lot of pepole post anything just to acheive the master dj status.

Jour post count means ****.
 
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