"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Member status should be changed

silverwex

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Right, so AFC's come here for the first time register and begin to post and ask questions. Thats fine.

What should be changed tho, is the DJ staus below member names.

For instance, an AFC joins the site and is TOTALLY out of touch with what to do with/around girls - and sosuave give him a status of 'DJ' staright away?

I mean even 'DJs' with 400/500 posts still are a bit AFC! Including myself!

Heres what the rating system should be like:

0 - 350 Posts = Recovering AFC (RAFC)

351 - 600 Posts = Reformed AFC (RAFC2)

600 - 800 Posts = DJ

800+ = Master/Senior DJ

Or maybe there should be some online test asking whether u know the stuff sosuave teaches or if you put it into practice...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wouldn't it be the opposite in some cases? After all, the more you're on here, the less time you're spending out in the field practicing... some of the top DJ's might only have 100-200 posts... :p
 

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Excellent point. I've barely posted at all since I finally got good.
 

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Bishop - Thats actually a good point. Didnt think of it from that situation...

Suppose it can work either way.
 

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A better idea would be to let our peers decide for us with votes, based on the quality or lack thereof of what we actually say. Much in the same way a thread here can be currently rated.

AT least that way new visitors to the forums can easily identify those who know what they're talking about and those who just constantly spout out canned, generic advice, or worse, just bad advice all together. It might also let people that are here to help know if they are actually helping.

I suppose it can be abused in hard feelings, or sometimes we post things we come to regret later on...but that's life. If it ain't real, what's the point?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sisko

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No it is a bad idea.

The old forum had just a DJ and a Master DJ status.

That was better because a lot of pepole post anything just to acheive the master dj status.

Jour post count means ****.
 
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