"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Remulak

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Me and my girlfriend have been together roughly 6 months and I'm going out to dinner with her parents next week and I'm kind of nervous about it. I don't know why but whenever it comes to meeting a girlfriend's parents I don't look forward to it because I feel like I'm going to be judged. Does anyone have any tips or anything to deal with the situation. I'm kind of shy so I don't know what I'm going to talk about and stuff. Please mature and serious answers only.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just be yourself.... parents are always looking for a good "guy" for there daughter. If your right for her then you have nothing to worry about. Just play it cool and dont do anything stupid and it always works out in the end.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Just ask them to tell you some stories about your girl and share some related stories about yourself while growing up (nothing too dark). You want to project yourself as steady, determined and a planner; not someone who jumps into things haphazardly.

Six months is an important time in a relationship, it's when each of you determine whether to fish or cut bait. At six months, her wanting to introduce you to her parents is a good thing for you, it means that your girl really interested in you. Just remember that you're not going into a den of wolves on your own, you have an ally on your side.
 

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She said "It's weird you're meeting my parents, I haven't introduced any guys to my parents since high school."


So todays the day I'm meeting her parents we're going out to dinner tonight. Wish me luck!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Remulak said:
Me and my girlfriend have been together roughly 6 months and I'm going out to dinner with her parents next week and I'm kind of nervous about it. I don't know why but whenever it comes to meeting a girlfriend's parents I don't look forward to it because I feel like I'm going to be judged. Does anyone have any tips or anything to deal with the situation. I'm kind of shy so I don't know what I'm going to talk about and stuff. Please mature and serious answers only.
EVERYONE is going to judge you. It ca't be helped.

My ex girlfriend's father hated my guts, and I never actually met him. But he was an illiterate, angry, violent drunk, so that was HIS malfunction. He was an ass.

Just don't be crass in front of them, or talk about how often your shtooping their daughter (if you are). Be a cool guy, be yourself, but give them respect, even if they're jackasses. Don't kiss up to them, don't be phoney. And remember, you're dating their daughter, and not them. If they get out of lne, defend yourself, and do it with tact and class. You're golden, anyway.

It's like a date (all the polite stuff), but you're not interested in the parents, so it's no big deal. If you keep building it up into something, then it will seem bigger than it is, and you'll make yourself more nervous than you have to be.

I hope you have the worst of luck, and I hope they never want to see you again, and I hope you break a leg. (In show business, that actually means I'm wishing you really good luck).
 

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If she's taking you to her parents, she has a high opinion of you.. so you're basically in at this point. Don't do anything extremely embarassing, and you're done. Don't have condoms in your pocket, caz sometimes an all-telling circle can show. Relax, act like you've known them a while, address the alpha of the group; Dad.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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KillaPetehog speaks with much wisdom.

Anyone who finds himself in the same situation should memorize his post, and he will do absolutely fine.

Sun Tzu
 

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Do the same you would to impress a women;

~Dress sharp
~Good posture
~BE POSITIVE!

Just let them know that their baby isn't with some deadbeat.
 
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